hmm..what's wrong with me?
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| Fri, 03-02-2007 - 6:02pm |
This is the first time I've ever been on here or done anything like this, but I'm hoping to find some advice for my constant insecurity that's been boggling my mind..(this is so embarrassing for me =/)
For the past few months now I've been having difficulty keeping a sexual relationship with my boyfriend. For some reason, everytime we'd have intercourse, midway or a few minutes or so later it would be very painful and I'd have to stop. It'd be like an irritating, burning, and a simply painful sensation and afterwards I'd end up bleeding/spotting for a few days afterward and mess up my menstrual cycle. Is that normal? I shouldn't be bleeding every time i have sex should I? Even now it's any type of penetration or even just getting a checkup from the obgyn it hurts and i bleed afterwards also, but my doctor says that everything seems to be fine and i don't have any infections.. I'm so confused. My bf and I had sex less and less often and now I never want to do it anymore nor do i have any sexual arousal because the thought of sex seems to be so unworth the pain. It's like I'm scared. If someone has ANY advice to a possibility what may be going on, that would be great! I'm just stressing out a bit and I would like to know something as soon as possible.
thank you for you time,
elle

Well, if the doctor says you don't have an infection, but yet you even bleed from the gyn exam.....that's not "normal". You don't have to have an infection to cause bleeding! I think maybe you should get a second opinion.
Aside from bleeding from an exam which seems strange......when you're having intercourse are you using lots of lube? Usually pain and bleeding are from being dry, and not fully aroused. It's pretty hard to get aroused and lubricated from foreplay when you're waiting for the pain to start. You are getting lots of foreplay, aren't you?
Just out of curiousity, try some sexual lubricant, and see if that helps. If this continues, you need a second opinion.....there are other things besides infections that cause pain and bleeding, like endometriosis or vaginismus.
I agree with Sakura, bleeding is not normal after sex or a gyno exam.
It's not just you!!!! I have had this going on for YEARS and thinking I am some freak and that it is 'just me'. My poor husband! I have had 3 doctors tell me everything was fine which made me leave the exam near tears. The last one has referred me to a clinical sexologist. She wrote 'dyspareunia' on the referral. I looked it up online and it lead to reading about 'vaginismus'. Reading about that was like the proverbial lightning bolt and apparently it is very common.
Read up on it here:
http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-symptoms/
http://www.womentc.com/vaginismus.htm
Now, I haven't ordered anything from these sites (yet) I want to wait until I talk to the counselor I was referred to, but the info here has made me feel much better. I hope it helps you too. Like the pp said, there are many other things besides infections that could cause problems so do get another medical opinion, but this might seem familiar to you as you read about it.
good luck, and please try not to feel bad about yourself. I know, it takes a big toll on you once you head down that road.