horny at different times

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2005
horny at different times
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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 8:00am

hi,

Me and my boyfriend have found that we are horny at completely different times to each other. He wants it at night just before we go to bed, but I am really not in the mood, mainly because I'm tired and I just want to sleep! And then I'm at my horniest early morning, which my boyfriend hates as he really isn't a morning person. This makes it difficult for us to both get the satisfaction out of sex as one of us really is not interested. I am calling out for any advice on how we can resolve this issue, I really want to satisfy my boyfriend, but at 11 o'clock at night, I just want to sleep! and therefore I feel like I'm not giving him what he needs or wants.

I'd appreciate any help!

Thanks x

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2005
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 8:37am

It's called "compromise"!! We all have differences in timing and libido, and we work it out.

On occasion, you'll manage to stay awake at 11PM, and on occasion, he'll get with the program in the morning. There are also weekends when you have a few days to get in sync with each other.

There is nothing that can't be solved by discussing it.....it's called communication.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2005
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 10:42am
Thanks for the reply, we have spoken about it, and we decided that we will just have to comprimise, but for me, it hasn't worked, I don't feel at all satisfied, and it takes away the great feeling of sex for me. It's hard to explain, but I didn't know if there were any tips that anyone had for me to kick up my sex drive at night time and to wake him up in the morning.