how????

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Registered: 02-28-2008
how????
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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 10:05pm

How do you make your man more interested in you & your plessure durring sex?


Like... he dosen't start off slow, and cums very fast. I give him 4play all the time and also try to be sexy, but it seems like he just wants to have sex for literaly 5min and it's over. How can i also make him un-shy if thats the case. Me and him have been together 2 years and all we used to do was 4play and now, it's dissapointing. We love each other, alot. And he always expects me to make the first move, which i do and he loves everything i do, but i never get it in return. He's sensitive so i don't know how to talk to him about this...


please help.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: gal_emaily
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 12:09am

He's "sensitive"???

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Registered: 03-09-2008
In reply to: gal_emaily
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 12:25am
Maybe try explaining the logistics, although guys can cum very fast it usually takes woman 15-20 minutes to reach full satisfaction.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: gal_emaily
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 7:04am

Welcome to the board, gal_emaily.

The stop-start method is a good way for him to gain control over ejaculating. He can practice during partnered sex and during masturbation. Here's an article that you can share with him:

"My guy suffers from premature ejaculation" (Please, Squeeze, At Ease)
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/sexexpert/qas/0,,696792_705900,00.html
Written by Ian Kerner who has overcome this himself.

How long have the 2 of you been having actual intercourse? If it's relatively new for both of you, he may be overly stimulated. That doesn't mean he can't improve though.

I'm sure intercourse was a huge goal for him, but even for you to really enjoy that, you need a good bit of foreplay. He needs to understand that -- sensitive or not. If you do move into intercourse, and you're still not satisfied, there is also afterplay. It sounds like you're going to have to let him know that you want your needs fulfilled too. As Sakura said, talking to him outside of the bedroom is a good place to let him know about that. You might want to have him visit the website, www.the-clitoris.com, with you. Sex for females is a bit more complicated than it is for males, but it's well worth the journey for both of you!

Here are some other articles you might find helpful:

3 Communication Pitfalls to Avoid
http://love.ivillage.com/lnsproblems/lnscommunicate/0,,7mcw,00.html

Solutions to Your Top Two Communication Problems
http://love.ivillage.com/lnsproblems/lnscommunicate/0,,saver_7p3g,00.html

Speak Up! Ask Him for What You Want
http://love.ivillage.com/lnsproblems/lnscommunicate/0,,7ffztdxn,00.html

How can I get my guy to listen?
http://love.ivillage.com/lnsproblems/lnscommunicate/0,,guystellall_9nmljwsn,00.html





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Registered: 03-12-2008
In reply to: gal_emaily
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 7:14pm
Hate to be the to tell you this but it sounds like he maybe getting it somewhere else.