how to break it to him?

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Registered: 09-16-2003
how to break it to him?
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Mon, 09-27-2004 - 9:20am
I have been with a guy for about 3 months now, he is 25 and I am 22. We started having sex quite soon after we started going out(about 2 weeks into the relationship). The thing is, I cannot orgasm just thru penetration, only when receiving oral sex or by stimulating the clitoris with a finger...

now, to avoid making him feel bad, I have been faking an orgasm every time. I have not allowed him to give me oral sex yet (he is more than willing) and he isn't much for the fingering. So now I feel like I should tell him that I actually can't cum through intercourse so that we can change things a little bit. But at the same time, he is HUGE on honesty(I am too but I lied about this to not make him feel bad) and I am quite afraid he will be very mad at me for lying to him like that. So I am not sure what to do. I don't want to tell him but at the same time I want to make sex more pleasurable for me as well...

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 09-28-2004 - 9:52am
thank you all for the replies...i do enjoy sex, even if i don't orgasm because I really like the closeness. I haven't quite decided how to go about this, I think I will just allow him to perform oral sex(he is so eager to do it) and also maybe try something new during intercourse...i have plenty of time to think about it as I will not see him for 4 weeks due to our busy schedules and me going away and then him going away...:)

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