How can I help him :(
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| Sat, 10-16-2004 - 11:26am |
"lol...no i know...u know i was just cautious at the beginnin cuz i didnt really know how u felt about that stuff...plus the beata thing didnt help..."
(in the beginning of our relationship this girl who liked him was bullsh*tting things to me about how he only wanted @$$)
"...and just i didnt wanna come off as some horny prick cuz as u know theres more to my feelings for u than just that of stuff..a lot more"
How can I fix this? I told him him being a horny prick if anything..to me..is hot!! And I find it cute as hell and I love it when he initiates things because for me it's hard too because I'm scared things will hurt. But obviously there will be times where I don't feel like it and vice versa but that doesn't mean I want him to hold back. I understand his point but I don't want him to feel that he has to be all cautious.
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I'm not quite sure what you are asking here.
I think there are a number of things you could do to make him feel better - and they are based around ideas that will make sex better for you.
1. get comfortable being naked with him. If he sees how much you enjoy just laying around with him, he won't feel bad about asking you. However, at present, he's probably worried about making you do something that you are uncomfortable with.
2. relax and enjoy proper foreplay. Not only will it make sex much more enjoyable for both of you, it will make it easier for both of you.
In short, when he knows that initiating sex will give you pleasure - not insecurity or pain - he'll get over it.