how can i spice up my sex life?

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Registered: 07-21-2005
how can i spice up my sex life?
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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 7:09pm
Me and my boyfriend we love having sex, but sometimes after awhile we get bored easily. What else can we do to spice up our sex life?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 9:40am

There are tons of things to spice up your sex life, different positions for intercourse, oral, foreplay,


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Registered: 07-21-2005
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 10:19am
Yeah, we pretty much do the same thing. Like we will switch positions, he'll start on top, then we will rotate then I'll be on top. We never really tried foreplay...
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 10:44am

Why have you never tried foreplay?


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Registered: 07-21-2005
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 11:09am
we just never thought about it....Next question, how do I start foreplay?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 12:28pm

Besides intercourse, is there anything else you do, manual stimulation, giving each other oral, touching and exploring each other's bodies, finding each other's hot spots, etc.?


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Registered: 07-21-2005
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 1:40pm
thanxs!! I will def. try it out tonight..
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 3:44pm

I agree with Tish, I couldn't really add anything to what she said...excellent advice! Here's a few articles that many have found pretty helpful too:

For practices and why they're so helpful with "boring" sex...

http://magazines.ivillage.com/marieclaire/mind/health/articles/0,,434735_437772,00.html
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/sex/no/articles/0,,544153_285753,00.html
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexinthemood/0,,drpatti_nrcd,00.html

...and for newer and exciting positions you might not have tried or even heard of, here's a few that always raise eyebrows...

http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/sex/no/articles/0,,166928_547497,00.html
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/sex/no/articles/0,,166928_633458,00.html
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638358_622007,00.html

I don't even remember the last time the Mrs. & I jumped right to intercourse without having fun with foreplay first. Enjoying each other and each other's bodies is completely part of the fun, even before enjoying intercourse. There are times when couples here and there enjoy foreplay even without intercourse too.

Having fun with each other and foreplay is something you get hints on, but its still a VERY fun learning process for you to enjoy yourselves that much more. Always your own unique ways you'll create together.

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C  H  A  R  A  C  T  E  R

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Registered: 07-21-2005
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 6:42pm
thanxs.
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Registered: 08-06-2004
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 8:11pm

I tried this once with my husband with WONDERFUL results, we both were super excited and I'm going to have to try it again soon.

Get a small box, pen and paper together. Cut the paper into pieces you can write on and put in the box.

on each scrap of paper write something on it that the person who grabs that paper MUST do to the other for 5 minutes (or more or less depending on the act and the fun you have during it)

Examples:

Perform oral sex on me
Masturbate in front of me
Massage my Back/legs/feet/butt/ chest (whatever suites you)
I will hide a dab of choclate on my body - find it with your tounge
Do a strip tease for me
my favorite: make me laugh

take turns pulling from the hat. some you may want to put back in the hat and save for later some you may want to change roles on - On way or another it is a sure fire way to keep you guessing what comes next.

Be sure to put tons of fun and sexy things in there. You may find that you dont get halfway through the box before you can resist any longer and just go for it.




Edited 9/3/2005 8:12 pm ET ET by allbluff
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Registered: 07-05-2005
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 5:56am

We made out on the couch with the lights out the other night...like when we first met.
It was incredible. It lead to much more in a slow sweet way.

I loved it.

Kris