How Can I Stop the Pain?
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How Can I Stop the Pain?
| Mon, 07-03-2006 - 2:12am |
When I have vaginal sex with my partner, it hurts. He can get his head in okay, but beyond that, I have pain that feels like he is tearing something. I am a petite woman, 5 feet, 95 pounds and he has a fairly large penis. I have not been sexually active for a while (over 2 years) and did not experience this pain with my previous partners. Is because its been a while and he is much bigger than my old partners or should I visit a gyno?
Is there something I can do to ease the pain, we have tried lubrication and it still hurts. I really want this to work and I know it is frustrating to both him and me, but we want to keep trying. There is only so much oral we can do. Any help will be appreciated, Thanks.

There's certainly nothing wrong with seeing your gyno......which every sexually active woman should do annually anyway, even if they stop for a while. The doctor can tell you if you've been torn or injured in any way. If not, then it goes back to arousal and relaxation.
There could be many reasons for the pain....but your size and his size shouldn't be a cause for it. It's possible that the first time you weren't fully aroused and lubricated, and you tore a little. Then you didn't give it enough time to heal before you tried again. Continuing to try when it's painful isn't going to make the pain go away.
Chances are, you're just not relaxing enough during foreplay, particularly since you've experienced pain previously, you're tense because you expect pain again.
Give the intercourse a rest for a while, and just concentrate on the foreplay. You can both get plenty of pleasure without intercourse. When you try again, stop immediately if it's painful again. "Forcing" it isn't going to work.