How can you make it last longer?
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How can you make it last longer?
| Fri, 10-08-2004 - 12:16pm |
While in the act of making love, how can a male last longer than 30 seconds!? What makes it only last that short in the first place? I am afraid this is putting a damper on our relationship and I have to find ways to fix it so that I have some fun too and preferable for longer than 30 seconds!!! HELP!

How long have you been with your partner and how long has he been sexually active? Usually, with familiarity, time and maturity, most men can adequately learn to last long enough to satisfy their partner. However, you must have realistic expectations, too. Some estimate that the majority of men ejaculate in 2 minutes on average.
This is a common problem but with some adjustments in your expectations and practices, it can be resolved.
Don't allow penetration until you are VERY aroused during foreplay, in other words, try to begin intercourse with your arousal levels on the same level with one another. And if he's not spending enough time arousing you manually and/or digitally, then he needs to. Bringing you to orgasm once or twice BEFORE penetration can also serve a dual purpose. It can serve to relieve the frustration for YOU when he can't last long enough and relieves the pressure he may feel to last longer than he can right now, which can actually exacerbate the problem. He may be concentrating so hard to hold back, that he loses control.
Don't make a big issue of it but don't allow him to penetrate until you are almost to orgasm. With time, he should gain more confidence and control but try to be patient.
Hi jill:
There are a few reasons his sexual response is 30 seconds: 1-new to the sexual adventure; he has NOT learned to control the sexual response, 2-your vagina and body gets him SO aroused, and 3-he has learned thru masturbation to ejaculate quickly.
IMHO, you two will have to "retrain" his sexual response.
I agree with katmandoo.