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how can you orgasim faster
| Tue, 07-24-2007 - 12:18am |
does anyone know of anyway way to make it so it does not take me so long to orgasim during sex? my man is always getting off before me becuase it takes me so god damn long! i need to be able to get off quicker

Welcome to the board bikerbabeamw.
Sorry to say, you can't rush an orgasm! Women have different bodies then men do, and they need different types of stimulation to have an orgasm. It's very rare for a woman to actually have an orgasm strictly from penetration!
So, if you want to have more orgasms, the first step is in learning about your body and how it works. A great website for that is www.the-clitoris.com, and it's even better if you get your guy to learn along with you!
Learning how to pleasure yourself during masturbation will help you to be able to teach your guy about the things that do help you have an orgasm. While exploring, remember that your mind really needs to be in the game too. Probably the most complicated factor is your mind! If you "wish" for an orgasm, you'll likely not have one; if you focus on the orgasm, you'll likely not have one; if you allow yourself to enjoy the pleasures that you feel, you're helping your cause; if you process that pleasure into sexy thoughts, you're rounding the corner!
Here's an article by Tracey Cox that you might find helpful:
Know Thyself: The Female Form 101
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexsolo/0,,traceycox_b6vtmjv3,00.html
During sex, you need to let him know what you need to have an orgasm. Most women have orgasms during foreplay through clitoral stimulation (manual or oral). So, while he's anxious to move on to intercourse, you need to let him know if you aren't ready to go there yet! If you are ready for intercourse, but you still haven't had an orgasm, then try stimulating your clit during IC. This can be done by you, him or a vibrator. Sometimes certain positions can help -- like Woman on Top. That position is also great to give you complete control over IC, and more women do have orgasms in this position. He may not have an orgasm -- which is great, because that allows you the extra time you need! Once you're satisfied, you can change position and he can continue on to have his orgasm.
A guy having an orgasm first shouldn't be the end of the world either! Many men can have multiple orgasms, and most can go for round two with a break in between. But, there's also no reason why he can't continue to stimulate you after he has had his orgasm if you're not done yet. Let him know that you're still ready to go, don't let him roll over and go to sleep -- keep stimulating him, and encouraging him to give you more. He can also continue to stimulate your clitoris manually or orally, include a toy or whatever you may need to help you reach your orgasm.
He's not going to know that your unhappy unless you let him know, so either try to talk to him, or teach him what you need.
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There are lubes that contain certain items that cause blood to build up in your clitoral area and can help you orgasm faster. I have tried one of them and yes it does work. Look for a small tube of 'sex accelerator gel' usually listed under the sex lubes on sites that sell adult toys or head to your local toy shop. The one I have used contained menthol and L’Arginine and worked great. You have to try just a little bit the first time though. These types of lubes can be irritating to some women. They just make me hotter than I already am lol.