How to dissuade a flirty friend?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2004
How to dissuade a flirty friend?
25
Wed, 08-04-2004 - 11:07am
How do I politely ask my friend to stop hitting on my b/f? She is very beautiful and clearly her flirting is going pretty darn far. I mean hopefully I'm quite pretty too -- not too too worried about that. But she dresses a combination of innocent and sexy and she's clearly getting some of his attention and enjoying it. Yesterday she had on a beautiful gauzy sundress, blatantly with nothing underneath it. This is pretty silly if true that she's after a bald 40-year-old guy with glasses -- but I make him sound worse than he is, despite all that he's so yummy. And clearly has gotten the attentions of some amazing women, i think it's just that he's smart, sure of himself but not cocky and just very easy to get along with.

I HATE to bring it up with her ... she'll say, "what? i'm not interested in _him_" but clearly she is.

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2004
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 3:23pm
<>

I totally agree and so does JT. But, what he says (as I am a natural flirt and don't always realize when I am flirting) is that he doens't trust the other guy not to take it too far and make it so that I am uncomfortable. Some men mistake my friendlyness as flirting and JT gets uneasy only because he can't be there all the time to let me know when a guy is taking it too far. Even with my past, I am still too trusting of guys, in his opinion. I know when enough is enough and that's all that should matter. Plus if a guy is so dense to miss the diamond on my finger or think that it means nothing, then they have other serious issues.

Image hosting by Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 9:21pm
Christy, in keeping with the girl 2 girl post you could point out what you are observing in a very light manner by saying Catharine "all those moves you are putting on XXXXXX are making me HOT, if you keep it up I am going to have to take you to the bedroom".
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2004
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 7:10am

Some people have "it".

Love
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 9:16am
Thanks. I would rather hang onto her as a friend because I don't have too too many. Plus I like her company and she is really really sexy ... not like I'm interested in other women, but she's just fun. At least she won't be trying to suck his c*ck though because she doesn't "do that"!

I don't understand what the "it" is! By all measures, this guy should have all the hangups of a middle-aged guy who's bald, wears glasses, and isn't terribly fit. All I can say is that he's very smart, very easy to get along with and has a big dick, as well as a real interest in me ... our conversations are 95% about me which is such a change. Not like there's anything he seems to be covering up, he is just -interested-. Plus he's funny as hell and very nice to other people in front of me. Maybe his having been lovingly fellated by some pretty incredible women just gives him a world-view that is a little unusual. I do wish he did not work so hard at his job though.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2004
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 2:54pm

"Plus I like her company and she is really really sexy .."


- My only advise to you if I may, would be to be careful of what you tell her, I wouldn't share personal sexual 'kiss and tell' type of things with her.

Love

Pages