How do I get my man to do more oral?

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Registered: 06-23-2004
How do I get my man to do more oral?
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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 5:13pm
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 5 months now. And outta those 5 months he has only given me oral pleasure twice! He he does it he is really good at and drives me crazy! I at least give him oral everyday that I see him. Just recently he told me he was limited on that kind of stuff. That he can only do so much. He told me he likes to do it. But why doesnt he do it more often???? How can i get him to do more oral on me!?!?!? Someone please help this is driving me crazy?!!

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Registered: 05-14-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 5:18pm
Id like the answer to this one too since my H gives me oral once a year. I am clean and stuff too.....

My first thought is ask him for it more often don't wait for him to give it but then again I cannot ask for it! It seems too demanding to me to ask for stuff he does not wnat to give.

You can always find another man.......!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 5:25pm
The simple answer....ask for it. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. If he doesn't feel confident in performing orally, reassure him that he is great at it but TELL him that you would like reciprocation for all you do for him.

I don't know what he means when he says that he's "limited on that kind of stuff", though. Does that mean that your pleasure will be limited? That you shouldn't ask for what you like?

Maybe you should tell him that HIS "kind of stuff" will also be "limited" from now on as well. Seriously, stop giving him oral everyday and when he asks why, tell him. Don't be shy about asking for what you want, it's the only way you'll get it.






Edited 6/23/2004 5:37 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 5:37pm
I agree with Katmandoo. If you want it, ask for it. If he still doesn't "cooperate"....then stop doing if for him every time. If he wants to know why, tell him YOU'RE limited when you don't get reciprocation.

You need to understand that there are some men who don't LIKE to do it, even though he's good at it, and he seems to enjoy it when he does it. If that's the case, and it's that important to you, then maybe it's time to move on.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 5:39pm
I agree with Kat on this.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 6:35pm
Then I would be "more limited" with him too! As long as you won't get in trouble, I'd back off from giving him head and wait until he asks "why" aren't you doing that? Then tell him - you need and want it to. I would also coyly add how good it feels and how very talented he is in that department. ;)

Gotta stroke the ego a little bit. Good luck!

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Registered: 05-14-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 7:33pm
Hey tiana, how's your counseling going?
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 7:54pm
You mind asking about this in the Off Topic area? I personally would like to see this thread stay on topic.

Leticia

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 8:00pm
I already posted how it was going this week to you. Or maybe it was last week. It takes a lot of time and I'm definitely not going to post the details here.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 1:57am
I agree with the others - this sort of thing usually involves a bit of give and take. I wouldn't expect oral sex from him all the time but he should oblige you much more often.

He may not like going down on you very much for a reason so I think that you need to talk to him a bit more about that and eliminate any good reasons. For example, I prefer my partner to have showered within an hour or two of me going down on her because I find the taste too strong - not offensive, just too strong otherwise.

If he's just being lazy then he's gotta understand that what goes around comes around.

And what's with the 'he can only do so much'? What on Earth does he mean by that? Sounds like a throw-away line to me that doesn't really mean anything but you can be use it to finish conversation about a subject.

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 10:07am
Don't play a little childish game with him. Do what you want to do, when you want to do it, and when you want it from him, tell him to give it. Not thaat big of a deal. So many people talk about not asking for what they want. Just say that you want him to eat your ______!!! Tell him how great it feels for you when he does it, how much you love while he is doing it, and afterwards remind him of the orgasm you had from it. Those things will boost his ego regarding it, and soon, you will be getting to much oral. LOL

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