How do I get my man to do more oral?
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How do I get my man to do more oral?
| Wed, 06-23-2004 - 5:13pm |
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 5 months now. And outta those 5 months he has only given me oral pleasure twice! He he does it he is really good at and drives me crazy! I at least give him oral everyday that I see him. Just recently he told me he was limited on that kind of stuff. That he can only do so much. He told me he likes to do it. But why doesnt he do it more often???? How can i get him to do more oral on me!?!?!? Someone please help this is driving me crazy?!!

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First and foremost, I personally love everything about giving oral sex.
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I can't help you specifically because I am very much into giving oral sex to my girl. Fact is it's probably what we do the most of, even as quickies. Man, how I could go on about how hot it is to me, and I know she had never experienced such an attentive lover, or orgasms like she has now. Still I have done extra research and found a technique that takes it all to a new level.
What is interesting about your situation to me is the tables have recently turned somewhat with her interest in reciprocating. Her ex used to only want her to give oral, would expect her to continue at great lengths, and also want to end with a facial. Obviously she concurred but gained a huge resentment towards the expectation. My ex was frustrating also because she, with great effort and encouragement on my part, would only sometimes perform oral on me, and then would stop right AT the moment ... I would go nuts with frustration. I always felt wierd asking for oral because to me the turn on is all about her desirte to do it, not caring much for recieving any kind of sex out of a feeling they feel obligated.
Anyway, recently with my girlfriend, things had taken a change. I finally wanted to break the ice and moved into a 69 .. her response was "is this my que?" Well, I just felt like forget about it and tried to put it behind be and continue by getting into her to feel better. It hasn't been a complete barren experience but she will say she needs to feel "in the mood" and my thoughts are -why don't you?- I just have faith she will get back to her groove and I truly hope she does cause it could grow to be an issue with me.
Still, like you, I do get bothered at times knowing that my obsession to relish her isn't even thought that she isn't appreciative or turned on at just pleasing me too. In my case I think it will come (no pun intended, lol) back in time. For you I understand how asking for what you want seems a little less fulfilling. I am also suspect that his comment that he's "limited" might easily translate to other aspects of your relationship .. he sounds great at being able to recieve attention, but not so enthusiastic to be attentive to you.
In closing, I believe sex is such a component in a relationship, it is for me anyway, that thinking of finding someone else that truly wants to love you beyond himself, might not be such a bad idea all the way around.
Hope this helps .. somebody like me could be looking for you, for a superhighway of a two way street relationship. Good luck!
Michael
>When I ask him about it or confront him about not doing so much he gets all defensive about and tells me that i make him feel like crap for not doing it all the time.
Danger! Danger! Will Robinson! If he can't even talk about something that should give you both pleasure, or accept suggestions on how better to please you, there are bigger problems afoot! Would you be defensive if he asked to to do something that turned him on more often?
Sex is supposed to be a two way street. You ought to be able to make a reasonable request without him getting defensive. Any reasonable and mature man should be able to talk to their partner.
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