How do i knowif it was good for him

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Registered: 07-12-2005
How do i knowif it was good for him
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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 1:57pm
Well this weekend i had sex with a friend for the first time. We've been hanging out and well it just happened this weekend. So we did it two times and after the second time he said that was really good but then again he was drunk. I had been drinking. We had some other issues like him slipping out and things like that. We didn't really get to talk after because we feel asleep and than his dad woke us up and i had to be gone before grandma got home. Yes he lives with his grandma but his dad was just there visiting but i guess i don't know how he really felt about it because he didn't even touch me when he dropped me off. I won't see him for a month but he did say earlier that we have to hang out sometime while we are both sober.
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 5:54pm

Being that he was drunk, he probably wouldn't know if it was good, either. Try it when you're sober......it's a lot better that way.

If he wants to see you again, you can guess that he wasn't disappointed.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 8:58pm
My theory has always been .. "if you have to ask, it wasn't."


Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 10:03pm

The downside, he didn't touch you when he dropped you off. Not the best of signs, but maybe it was the awkwardness of the whole situation (see below), the hangover, etc. This one you'll have to feel out.

The sex... The lack of sobriety could have prevented a full erection and led to slipping out, not to mention the lack of focus drunkeness can cause.

So maybe the sex wasn't great, but...
1. He's a guy - it has to be pretty bad for a guy not to enjoy it. And...
2. He seemed eager to be with you again, sober.

Seeing him again - It still may be awkward since you have only had sex twice in one weekend, also you only referred to him as a friend not a boyfriend... potentially more awkwardness with such a big jump?? My advice, see the guy again, sober, without having sex, and see how things go.

Just a note, my first time went horribly! I mean really bad!
But we are now married and having great sex.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 10:57pm
Well, it probably wasn't bad. Any sex is good sex for most guys. If he kept slipping out there is a good chance that he's wondering if you enjoyed it because he was too drunk to get a full erection. Try doing it sober before jumping to conclusions.