How do I talk to my gf/fiance about this
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| Tue, 10-07-2008 - 5:58pm |
Okay I have been with this girl OFFICIALLY since 01/01/08. However, we used to go out on dates and mess around and talk for like 2 years before that. Anyways, she's pregnant now and I plan on proposin to her next year. She just turned 18 today and I turned 22 on Oct. 3. We love each other very much and we're ready to get married. I am just saving up to buy her a damn good engagement ring because I think my girl deserves finest things in life. I would do it now but I'm about to go to bootcamp for the marines and I want to do it when I come back so I can do it in my dress blues in this fancy restaurant. I have a scenario already planned out with some of the waiters that I know there. I also know manager so its all good. I trust my girl and we know each other very well. I know she would never be unfaithful to me and she knows I wouldn't to her either. I know she can wait for me, our relationship has been mostly long distance (she lives in Allentown, PA and I live in NY and NJ, I had a place in NJ n NY because of my "line of work" that I no longer take part of). I also used to live in Dominican Republic (we're both Dominicans) and she waited 5 months for me.
Anyways let me get to the point. I am a VERY self conscious person when it comes to sex. I have a high sex drive though so no one ever expects anything. I do not have the biggest penis, I'm about 5 1/2 inches sometimes 6 it depends on the situation I don't know why. I have excellent technique though, I know how to use what I have. I am VERY good at oral sex.

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It's great that you want to prove them wrong, and that you want to do it for yourself. Don't let them place a "value" on you as a human being. It sounds like you're turning your life around, keep on the path that you choose, and work with your new wife to build a life for the two of you -- a life that both of you can be proud of.
Pride comes from what you make of your life ... the decisions you make, and the course you follow, not from what others think of you.
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I dont want to get married just because we're having a baby. Since I'm going to the marines, he will be taken care of and he will get the benefits of being my dependent. Free health and life insurance the whole thing. Anyways, I know I can afford the ring in a couple of months its something that I really want to do. I treat my women all the same, with class and since I love this girl so much I am going to make sure that I treat her special and better than any other girl I've ever had. She's unique and she's decided to be the mother of my child. She deserves the best in my mind.
Dude, don't talk to you gf/fiance about this.
The best sex I have ever had is when I had intense passionate romantic feelings for my husband (I'm now divorced), no matter how he looked or how poorly he performed in bed. It took years and years and years for these feelings for him to diminish, and that's when I began to think about sex just apart from love and to separate the two in my emotions.
But here are my own, personal, reactions to the large penis thing. I do happen to fantasize about big ones, just as you yourself might sometimes fantasize about large breasts and shapely bottoms; I enjoy seeing them and masturbating them. I might ask you, "Do you fantasize about small breasts and bony bottoms?" I once went far out of my way to have a one night stand with a man with a unusually large one who used it so extremely well that I completely satisfied my fantasy, but my fantasy did not include the uncomfortable sensation of it sometimes pounding against my cervix, so I asked him to lay off. I am bi so I sometimes engage in threesomes with one of my girlfriends and her boyfriend, who is very long. Big deal, I now think, but she gets terribly excited (as I would myself) watching he and I have sex together, but my role in that threesome is quite largely a "performance" for her because I love to see how excited she gets. It's not his length that brings me so many orgasms but my feelings for her and her visible audible excitement.
What I am saying is it's largely a fantasy of yours, this obsession. EVERYONE would like to ignite fantasies in others by being especially gifted or handsome or beautiful. It's quite normal of us to fantasize about such things but when it comes to reality, go with your tenderest, gentlest most loving feelings and you're sure to come out a champion of sex.
I haven't been able to fall in love with any man lately; that's why I have no love match to brag about. I enjoy sex tremendously and I can hardly wait until I can melt love and sex together instead of merely being aroused to orgasm. The difficult thing at that time might be having to tell him about my post-marital sexual history as you'd like your girl to tell you. Will he enjoy listening or be jealous and envious?
I agree with what everyone is saying here.
Obviously size doesn't matter to her. She loves you. Plain and simple. As for past partners I agree with the post that pointed out that unless she's started having sex when she was 13 she hasn't had that much time to have that many partners.
Good for you for wanting to make a better life for yourself! Hopefully her family will see that you are truly a great guy and if they can't, I'm sure its not very far to the ocean ;)
As for the ring...I love your idea for proposing. If you really wanted to get her family involved and really show them. Do the cracker jack box thing. My h proposed to me a month before I got my ring. The sneak went to his neighbor lady and got this gawdy little Avon ring, wrapped it in a plastic baggie and put it in a box of cracker jacks. So I open it and am like 'oh, how nice' and put on the biggest fakest smile and when I went to give him a hug and thank him for it (this was at his family's Xmas btw) he shoves another nicer box at me. It was my ring, except the diamond hadn't been set so it was the band in one box and the stone in another. I would suggest having it already put together before you give it though.
I know whatever happens with the questions you've been having just remember, your size doesn't matter (my h is 4" on a good day and boy does he know how to use it!), forget her past and yours. It's in the past. Maybe asking her about her fantasies and then every so often giving her one of her fantasies would be nice.
Good luck in the Marines! Make us proud!
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