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How do women LIKE to swallow??
| Tue, 11-30-2004 - 8:12pm |
How can a woman let a guy ejaculate in their mouth and swallow it???
Sorry if this sounds immature but..EEW.
That is really gross. That's a human beings bodily fluid...why would you want to swallow it?? I don't get it...Why do men WANT women to swallow??
I'm sorry if I'm offending people but...again...EEW.
And I don't buy the whole "If you love him, you'll do it"-crap. Because that's what that is...crap. I love my bf but whatever comes OUT of his penis will not go INTO my mouth lol.
I'm not being immature I really honestly DO find it gross.

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Have you ever kissed someone you didn't like as opposed to kissing someone you did? It's the same difference.
You are not alone. There are many women who cannot handle a man's ejaculate. They have no issue giving oral, or even taking it in their mouth, but for some they can't swallow. It's mostly the texture, not so much the taste, but for some it's the combination. I was married to my husband for about five years before I ever swallowed.
Why not take it one step at a time, and shower together, and take it from there. Oral sex is a whole new world.
So, if you're happy to give oral....why the discussion about it being gross that urine comes out of there? There is no urine in semen....so I can only surmise that your issue is as much with his penis as with his semen.
>>but clearly, the majority of opinions on these boards always suggest to do whatever you feel comfortable with and if the person can't except what you don't do then it becomes their loss and they're not ready to be in a relationship.<<
I have also read these sentiments from time to time...however, I disagree entirely with it. I think it's the PC version of sex that people are trying to sell us. I know what I want from a man sexually and I will ask for it. If it doesn't happen, and he leaves me hanging - then I'll end the relationship. Likewise, if a man wants constant anal sex (something I rarely do) - then he's better off moving on than staying with me unsatisfied. Surely it's better to find a great partner that is a sexual match than to have a great partner that leaves you unsatisfied.
I believe that it's not about one person being not ready or more/less mature....it's simply about finding someone who's sexual style suits you. In other words, one conservative lover would suit another conservative lover. And one wild lover would suit another wild lover....and all the degrees in between.
When DH and I met, we put each other through our paces very early on. Both of us wanted to find each other's limits so that we know if we had better chance of being satisfied together. As it turned out, neither of us had any limits that were significant to the other.
You'd give up on a relationship if the guy didn't feel comfortable doing things that you liked to do in bed? Don't you feel bad after, losing a person who you emotionally and mentally meshed with because they didn't want to give or receive or perform something pertaining to your sexual endeavours?
I donno..I find that weird for me to imagine myself doing. I value relationships so much so that sex wouldn't be THE priority I think. Sex is VERY important but relationships are based on people's wants being the same, adoration for one another, caring for a person etc...(ie. some ppl don't want to get married but live in common-law and find that the other persons ideas fit theirs etc.)
I didn't really care about the urine thing. I didn't post that in my original post. Someone mentioned it but it wasn't the point of why I think swallowing is gross. I think it's gross because it...is. You're swallowing liquid coming out of a human beings body..that's the part I find unappealing.
>>You'd give up on a relationship if the guy didn't feel comfortable doing things that you liked to do in bed? Don't you feel bad after, losing a person who you emotionally and mentally meshed with because they didn't want to give or receive or perform something pertaining to your sexual endeavours?<<
I can certainly tell you that if a man wanted lots of anal, I'd prefer to break up. I don't want to leave a man unsatisfied....he's better off finding someone who suits him better than I. Surely it works both ways? Also, I generally have sex early in a relationship BEFORE I get too emotionally attached. So, breaking up is much easier.
In practice, I've generally found that if a person has too many hangups to perform standard sexual acts, then they've most likely got too many hangups for me in their general attitude to life. Therefore, breaking up before I get attached is the obvious choice.
However, this is really all in theory alone....I've only met one man who didn't LOVE to give oral sex. (lack of oral sex being a deal breaker for me) Generally speaking, as you grow older - you will find that most people will do most common sexual acts.
Poptart, you're right. One of the things that is stressed on these boards is that no one should ever be expected to do anything that they're uncomfortable with. If you don't want to do it, then don't.
You really shouldn't kiss him, either, because the human mouth contains more germs than you can imagine. Ask any ER doctor, they'd rather treat a dog bite than a human bite because of the possibility of infections. That doesn't mean after they've thrown up, or if they have nasty colds. That means ALL THE TIME! There is nothing harmful to your system in male ejaculate. It contains lots of beneficial chemicals, and protein, and saline. The same goes for female vaginal discharge. Urine isn't mixed with either fluid.....although urine is completely sterile, and you can even drink it if you're lost in the desert. All of this is assuming that neither of you has any kind of infection.
As for maturity.....every 19-20 year old feels that they're as mature as they'll ever be. In about 10 or 20 years, you'll look back at this time, and laugh about how mature you weren't. And by that time, you'll probably be giving and receiving oral sex, too...
Until that time, don't do it. There's no law that says you have to.
>>but when a woman comes on and says she may not like to swallow, she's attacked for being insensitive and immature. <<
I strongly disagree with you. I don't swallow, but have *never* been called immature or insensitive on these boards. Perhaps it's the wording of the O/P's post that prompted the immature comment rather than the content? While I have not been called immature for not swallowing, I'm sure that if I used words such as "gross" and "ewww" in a post that called other's idea's "crap" - then I probably would be called immature. And rightly so.
Mature is as mature does. If one just gets on with the things they enjoy and rises above the things they don't enjoy, no one will call them immature. The only reason to post such a strong objection to something would be when one's partner is pushing it. If the partner is not pushing it - then why worry about it?
If one makes a big deal about not doing a something that everyone else does - and goes on to call those other's ideas "crap" of course they will get criticised. I've seen the same happen on anal sex threads. Not doing anal doesn't get criticism - but criticising those that do it? It's just not on.
realize this topic went a bit off from the OP. But I thought I would answer it.
I swallow cause I like it and really if you swallow fast enough your not going ot taste anything. There is nothing wrong with swallowing it. Its not unhealthy.
==Hot Potato
>>I was speaking generally about all of the posts that I read, not just this one. Most of the women if they don't do a specific sex act are labeled immature(or it's usually worded .."you're not mature enough to have sex" when I've never heard that once said to any of the males who advice about a male who won't perform oral.<<
Yes, I've seen those posts, and written a few of them too ;-)
In some of those posts where I say that a woman is not mature enough for sex, it's because she's more concerned about the size of her naked butt than about the loving exhange between partners.
Also, the age of the posters in question must also be considered. While posters should be above 18 to post on this board, it's obvious that some are not 18. These young girls have not even completed sufficient schooling to use punctuation or paragraphs. And their spelling is something else indeed. (Yes, we all do spellos and typos - but the odd spello or English as 2nd language isn't the issue here). I would feel morally wrong to advise these young girls that it's OK to go having sex when it's obvious that they are so young.
Generally speaking, when I advise someone that they aren't mature enough, I take everything into consideration.....including their wording and attitudes. It's not just about that particular sex act.
With regards to discussing options with *mature* men and women, I agree that different standards for men and women are not OK. Both sexes should be able to say "no" if they don't like doing something. Both sexes shouldn't try to push their partner beyond their boundaries. However, one can't say "no" to standard sex acts and just *expect* their partner to be fine with it forever.
I think the thing most of us push is compromise and communication. But also to know when to stop trying for compromise if the partner doesn't want to change their ways....in other words: accept it as it is or leave.
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