How do women LIKE to swallow??

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Registered: 11-21-2004
How do women LIKE to swallow??
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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 8:12pm

How can a woman let a guy ejaculate in their mouth and swallow it???
Sorry if this sounds immature but..EEW.

That is really gross. That's a human beings bodily fluid...why would you want to swallow it?? I don't get it...Why do men WANT women to swallow??

I'm sorry if I'm offending people but...again...EEW.

And I don't buy the whole "If you love him, you'll do it"-crap. Because that's what that is...crap. I love my bf but whatever comes OUT of his penis will not go INTO my mouth lol.

I'm not being immature I really honestly DO find it gross.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 10:31am

From past posts of your, you said you are self-conscious about your body,


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Registered: 10-07-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 12:45pm

Ok poptart,
I like to swallow because I enjoy giving oral sex, and the swallowing part is jsut a part of it. I learned a long time ago, that what my man eats can sometimes determine his taste. We will be out somewhere and he will order something with onion in it, and I just need to give him a little look and he will order something else.

I love to give oral sex, so the first time I did it, and the guy came, I just swallowed it down, and kept going. Sometimes I will keep it up until he cums a second time. I don't fine it gross or anything. Its a personal choose.

It sounds like you need to deal with the fact that you think it's gross. Here is something that you might like, or willing to do. Next time you have sex with your man, after he cum inside of you (assuming you don't use condoms), masterbate with your finger, and then with your eyes closed lick them and suck on them.

Just a thought

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Registered: 11-21-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 1:12pm

>>From past posts of your, you said you are self-conscious about your body, uncomfortable about him cumming inside of you (even though you are on bc and he uses condoms), paranoid about pregnancy, you want to blindfold him to give him oral because him watching you creeps you out, scared to let him go down on you, you don't want to be in front of him if you're not freshly shaved and you feel gross having sex that way, <> was stated in one of your posts. <<<

I shouldn't really have to dignify this but I'll do it anyways.

I'm not self-concious about my body. My bf has seen me completely naked..walking around blah blah blah...If I was self-concious he would still be wondering what my boobs looked like.

Yes in the beginning, I was still uneasy of the idea of him letting off inside of me because there is not for SURE way to know your bc is working and condoms do break. That is the only paranoia I had attributing to pregnancy. I think all women have that in the back of their minds at one point or another when they begin having sex.

Yes, him watching me give him oral would creep me out and that's because I'm a shy person.

I like being waxed, I feel cleaner about sex that way I'm not sure how that becomes an inhibition.

Anyways...I think that you guys are VERY open minded about sex. It's like you practically don't care about anything at all! Yes perhaps it's because you have all had your experiences. But these problems I've addressed are problems TONS of women and men have. You can't imagine people not to have a care in the world when it comes to sex. People have emotions. You can't throw out your feelings or inhibitions about sex. They go away with time not by force.

I'll say something also, I appreciate the criticism etc. I take it into consideration but only up to a certain point. I like to hear other peoples experiences and suggestions. The main suggestion I hear on this board though is "Get over it or don't do it." Things aren't a quick fix, especially when you're dealing with sex. I'm not sure why people see it that way.

Thanks for all who answered my how can women like to swallow question...lol

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 1:33pm

Hi everyone,

I just wanted to add that when I was young (less mature and less informed) there were many things that I thought I would never do. Both sexually and otherwise.

I never thought I could have a room full of strangers looking in my vagina while I gave birth. I thought it was wrong to breastfeed a baby beyond infancy. I thought tofu and pineapple on pizza was gross. I thought that snakes were slimy. I thought I would never give up my vinyl records for cd's. (now Im really showing my age) When I was very young, and just found out how babies were made, I even thought sex was gross and that "french" kissing was gross.

Well, Im older now and smarter. I never say never because everything changes. As you become more comfortable with yourself you are willing to try new things. This is what makes life so fun.

Poptart, someday you may find that your feelings about oral and swallowing have changed. For now, if you are not comfortable with it than dont do it. Only recently have I enjoyed swallowing. I cant tell you why... maybe its the power, maybe its because it makes my partner happy, maybe its just fun. But once again my ideas have changed with experience, information and yes...maturity.

Danielle

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 4:51pm

>>I find that you're contradicting yourself a big westridge..you say you wonder how he can enjoy sex when I have an uptight attitude etc. but clearly, the majority of opinions on these boards always suggest to do whatever you feel comfortable with<<

OK, I haven't read all the other posts yet - I'll wade my way through them in a minute.

I don't think that I am contradicting myself. The general advice of doing only what you are comfortable with stands. But at the same time, I don't think that there is anything to be gained by approaching any issue with a dramatic and immature "Ewwww, Yuck! That's gross." attitude. Certainly that was the impression that you gave, repeatedly, with you first few posts.

If you don't want to give oral sex because you find it disgusting, then don't do it by all means. But DO consider that there are other points of view. Certainly oral sex is a fairly well accepted alternative or addition to intercourse and the body fluids that are involved during oral sex are the same fluids that are involved during normal intercourse. Semen and vaginal secretions are all part of having sex and are very normal but you gave a very strong impression that you dislike semen greatly and find penises 'dirty'. How can that NOT flow over from oral sex into other areas of your sex life? How can having an extreme reaction to relatively normal and accepted acts NOT impact on your partner's feelings towards you and sex with you? (BTW, I'm glad to hear that you haven't said it like this to your b/f).

I am not saying that you should ignore your feelings about oral sex and just do something that you are uncomfortable with. I am saying that you should reconsider your dramatic attitude towards oral sex and consider the impact dramatic statements have in other areas of your life, and sex life.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 5:51pm

I have seen women told that it's worth giving it a try, but I don't recall any woman being told that she *must* perform oral sex. (with the exception of a few rogue trolls). I'd be quite interested in reviewing any of those posts if you can find them.

No, I don't consider swallowing to be a standard act either.....when I was discussing "standard" sex acts, I was being deliberately vague so as to encompass many different posts.

You are quite right about there being no law that says you have to do all sex acts. However, one must be aware that if they don't want to do standard stuff (of any type) they may be leaving their partner hanging.....or seeking it elsewhere. While I don't condone seeking it elsewhere, I have seen a few posters who are so desperate for a particular act that they do consider cheating.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 6:04pm

>>I think whoever, should get over the ideology of only children saying EEW and GROSS. If you think something is gross what do YOU do? Being open-minded doesn't constitute as not finding things gross.<<

But the thing is, only children say "eew" and "gross" about sexual things. Adults certainly still have aversions, but they use grown up phrases like "I'd prefer not to" or "It's really not my thing".

For example, if I was in bed with a man who said "ewww - that's gross" he'd be out my door before he knew what hit him. However, if he said "I'm sorry, I'm not comfortable with that" I'd be OK with it. It's all about delivery and tact.

If your very first post on this thread had been worded to the effect of:

"I've been thinking about giving my b/f oral sex, but am not comfortable with the idea of swallowing. However, I've read a number of posters who do swallow and I'm wondering what the appeal is"

then I'm sure you would not have been called immature. Instead, you probably would have been inundated with helpful advice. I would have told you that I don't swallow either, but it makes no difference in our relationship. But as it stands, your wording makes more impact than the question. Can you see the difference?

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Wed, 12-01-2004 - 6:15pm

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 6:36pm
For me its not a "think its gross" or even a taste issue. I don't swallow because I can't stand the consistency. Semen is very viscous and its a very uncomfortable feeling for me to have it in my mouth.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 7:00pm

Well...maybe not TOLD DIRECTLY, but more of a subtle coercion. In fact, it was your very response to this very thread which prompted me to even post. How a guy you once dated who didn't go down on you and thought you was gross(exactly what you believed the poster was against), and that was one of the reasons you left him. Because of his "general uptightness". Although all of the other remarks "he was a nice bloke" this was such a horrible thing that it still stuck with you all these years? All implying that people who don't perform oral are "uptight". Particularly since you were in your teens(so I'm assuming he was young). Any young person reading this with an aversion is going to think...."Yowzer, I better get my butt booking and get me head down there under. This is basic stuff. If I don't someone's gonna think I'm uptight and leave me even if I'm a nice person."

Here's your excerpt....

"This reminds me of a past relationship of mine when I was in my late teens. He thought my vulva was too gross to give oral to....and yes, I was offended. But as you've suggested, his reticence to go down reflected his general uptightness when it came to sex. In the end, his uptight attitude was partly what contributed to the demise of our relationship."

"I met him again recently, and couldn't help but wonder if he'd grown up and gotten over his aversion to dirty (fun) sex. Isn't it strange the things you remember about people? While he was a very nice bloke, the thing that really sticks in my mind is how uptight he was LOL."