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How do you define it?
| Mon, 08-22-2005 - 1:36am |
Do you think horniness, lust, physical cravings & desire are by-products of love? Or IYO can we experience those feelings without 'being in love'?

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Unoshopper,
Of course people get horny without being "in love". We all have attractions and natural desires...that's being human. However, love (in a romantic love relationship) can increase those desires as well.
I actually dislike the term "in love", because normally what we describe as "in love" is really not love at all...or more appropriately it is only one kind of love called Eros. Real love has so many more components than Eros does. Eros, or that in love feeling is wonderful, but it is fleeting and has a natural life of about 3 years. In the Western world, we have been so duped into believing that being "in love" is how you should feel at every moment, that there are many that run from relationship to relationship looking for the "one" and then discovering that that feeling dissappears. We then assume that that person was just the wrong one and then we go hunting again. The reality is, the end of the Eros phase, is actually the beginning of real love...what Erma Bombeck called "stirring the oatmeal love". And with that, we get the return of Eros and all of those feelings...they come and go for us the rest of our lives with the same person.
I know that that was much more info than neccessary, but I was on a roll.
Scott.
No you don't have to have love to be horny. You should have love however to have a long lasting HEALTHY sexual relationship. The act of love is something that is greater and keeps the love alive. It keeps the passion that you had in the begin alive. But I'm young, so I'm f****** like a rabbit. So I can't be much help in the aspect.
What are EROS? I'm confused.
Kayla
Kayla,
Nothing wrong with being young and Rabbit-like! Been there, done that myself.
Didn't know really where you were going with your question, so I gave a long, rambling one that I knew was probably not really answering your question, but I felt like rambling:0).
Eros is a Greek word (the root work of erotic) that better describes the "in love" state that we westerners seem to worship as the ultimate love.
Scott.
And that's why someone created the vibrator.
Edited 8/22/2005 4:24 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
>>There is no reason whatsoever why desire and a relationship should go together.<<
Emphasis on the word , I totally agree with that statement. Not willing to state here on the message board that one way is better than the other, but some feel that desire must come first whereas others feel that the relationship must come first.
To each their own when it comes to couples of course, but I personally am on the relationship first side of the issue. I support that concept of sharing myself with that special one , but I say again thats just me, my way is no better than another.
I state that because of the mentality of today's youth that seem to learn more and more that the desire first side of the coin is the only "happy" option for some reason. Shame, huh?
C H A R A C T E R
LOL!
Ask any guy. Any red-blooded male can easily experience feelings of horniness, lust, and sexual desire without an ounce of love being involved!!!!
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