how do you guys do it?!?
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how do you guys do it?!?
| Sat, 04-22-2006 - 8:55pm |
I've been having sex with my boyfriend for a little over five months
now, we were both virgins at the time. Basically I have two questions:
a) Sometimes when we go at it for a while (like 30-45 minutes or more)
I get so, so sore and sometimes it lasts for a few days. I don't think
that it's a lack of interest (lubrication, foreplay, etc.) because the
sex has been great lately, it's just afterward i hurt.
b) this relates to the first question, we were talking today and he
says that he, too, feels, like, "overworked" sometimes when we go for
a long time, i'm just wondering how people can do it more than once?!
thanks for your help!.

Doing it more than once is not the same as doing it continually for an hour. It's normal, and not unusual to get dry after all that time. A little lube will do wonders for both of you.
If it's taking him that long......as Tish said, there's nothing wrong with just stopping and finishing him another way.
Most people can't do it more than once.....because most men can't do it a second time without at least 20 minutes or a half hour of rest. Women of course, can go on a lot longer.....because they can have multiple orgasms, or even if they don't.....they can continue as long as they want to, with some help with some lube if necessary.....unless they get physically tired.
A lot of the "marathon" sex you hear about is either an out and out lie, or a figment of someones imagination. It's not the quantity or the lenghth of time, it's the quality that counts.
Like the others have said, you'll come to the same conclusion that most people do about prolonged intercourse: It's not how long the two of you can pound away that counts, it's the quality and how satisfied you both are at the end of it. There does seem to be a bit of a myth that you hear when you are younger that a guy's ability to last a long time, his stamina if you will, is what makes him a good lover. As you are finding out, that is simply not true. Sometimes a long time is a bad thing.
Like the others have said, lubrication could be the problem. If he uses a bit of force when he thrusts that could make you sore too. Literally being pounded for a half hour will make any area of soft tissue sore. Of course, if he's just taking too long you can always switch to a position or do something that will make him cum faster, or you could finish him off with a BJ or a handjob or something. If you aren't enjoying it anymore you don't have to just lie there and wait for him to finish.
And like the others have said, doing it more than once and lasting a long time are two separate things. Most younger guys can get another erection after an orgasm within 10-20 minutes. They might need a helping hand (or mouth) but most can do it fairly easily. It usually takes a bit longer as you get older. How longer you had intercourse for the first time doesn't really matter.