how do you keep the sex hot?

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Registered: 07-30-2003
how do you keep the sex hot?
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Wed, 02-06-2008 - 8:51pm

Does anyone have tips for making your sex life more passionate or at least keeping it steamy. Are quickies the answer or role playing? What works for you?

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 10:39pm

Welcome to the board, ritapita25.

I think keeping things hot depends on the couple and their likes/dislikes. Hubby and I aren't into role playing, but we love quickies ... but neither of those are the only things that would keep our relationship hot. Anything becomes boring and routine if it's done over and over. Variety is the answer for us. Sometimes the variety is in the position, others it's the location, other's it's the activity.

We don't always have "intercourse", we don't always "make love", we don't always do it in our bed, or have the lights off, or wait for the kids to go to sleep, etc. There's a lot of great advice if you want to read some of the other posts here. Also, here are some articles that you will get some ideas from:

Hot Monogamy
Playboy bunnies share their tips on keeping the love alive
http://love.ivillage.com/lnm/lnmgetcloser/0,,bmxq58mm,00.html?nlcid=ls|01-10-2008|

Banish Sexual Boredom
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexinthemood/0,,drpatti_1kkm,00.html

10 Things Good Girls Can Learn from Porn Stars
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,9x7nhpjx,00.html

10 All-Time Best Bedroom Tricks
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,traceycox_b1g0g04t,00

Try some new things out, and let us know how it goes ;-)





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Registered: 03-11-2005
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 4:50am
We begin foreplay with mutual masturbation-not usually to orgasm. We enjoy using sex toys together. We watch sex DVD'S together and fantasize together. We especially like to watch group sex DVD'S and fantasize that we are part of the group. Dirty talk is hot. I love it when she tells me how much she likes my big penis and how good it feels to have it inside her. Of course use the slang words.