How does this make You feel?
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Fri, 06-29-2007 - 12:30pm |
I was searching for some pictures today, and ran across this one. I think it could spur a great debate here. Let's just comment on how the picture makes us feel as an individual, and not pick each other apart ...




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I think the picture is very cute, and the caption makes a great "joke" sometimes.
One of the things that offends me about the "joke" is when guys really think this is true. My DH has a friend that really gets carried away with talking about people. He often makes comments about them, judges them, based on their commitment level to their family. He seems to have no realization that a man might actually desire spending time with his wife and/or family. Unless there is some "can't get out of obligation" on the calendar, he thinks he and his friends should live every minute of their lives for themselves, mostly without their wives or families. I think his life is sad! I know I couldn't be married to a man like him. I can't figure out whether his wife is a saint or a very confused person. I truly think she deserves a better husband.
On the flip side of this extreme, I feel hurt for people who do seem to live a life where this sentiment is true .... that "his" life is totally controlled by her. I think that all relationships will thrive on mutual respect for each other. The "control" issue really bothers me. I have known families that have fallen apart because of this sort of mentality. I used to have a friend that would have sex with her DH to get what she wanted, she would otherwise complain about him wanting to be intimate with her. It was hurtful to watch their relationship end.
On either end of the extreme, it just doesn't seem a relationship can thrive. When I do meet people that live on either end, I wonder how different their life would be if they were with a different person -- a person who wanted to be their partner.
my partner in the siggy exchange