Why are you self-conscious about your body? He sees it in other positions, doesn't he? Besides it looks better sitting upright than it would laying flat, when everything droops sideways! (at least on most of us!)
"Doing it right"? However you're comfortable is right. Woman on top is all about YOU....and you have to find what's good for you. You say your legs get tired....that's because you're squatting on your heels, and your thighs can't take much of that. Also, you're probably bouncing up and down....and that's also tiring. If you or he wants that kind of thrusting, then let him be on top.
Try it this way: Kneel, not squat. Position yourself so that you're comfortable. Balance yourself with your hands on your thighs, then start moving your hips in a circular grinding motion. It's not about jumping up and down, it's about slow sensuous movement. You'll get clitoral stimulation from rubbing against him, and if you're doing it right, you'll get some "g" spot action, too.
Any new position is difficult at first, but practice makes perfect. Most women love being on top, and being in control.....but it doesn't happen the first time.
>>Balance yourself with your hands on your thighs, then start moving your hips in a circular grinding motion.<<
I'll just add that my partner doesn't balance herself on her feet and squat often because it IS so tiring. She kneels, knees either side of my hips, and rather than a circular motion, she moves back and forth in a rocking motion. As she moves her hips forward she presses down so that she puts pressure on her gentials, then she slides back and repeats. She usually rests her hands on my chest to help her balance.
I'll agree about looking better on top too. There is no reason to feel self-concious about your body, especially while you are on top because everything looks better in that position!
That's pretty much how we do it too .. only I rest my hands on the bed (or floor or couch, lol) on either side of his head ... as I'm rocking, my breasts rub his chest ... very sensuous.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Hon, I hope that you're not feeling bad about being inexperienced. I just wanted to point out that as your DF didn't know that answer to your problem, it indicates that he is also inexperienced. So, instead of getting frustrated - enjoy learning together....you'll only have the pleasure of being on this big learning curve together once.
Also, the others are right about your body. When he's laying there in extacy, he's not going to worry about your body. For that matter, he won't worry about it when he's not in extacy LOL. He proposed to you warts and all - and that's how he loves and accepts you. Instead of being self conscious, rejoice in his complete acceptance.
I am in the same position u are in with your bf . i despise the way my body looks in any position...but they are right he knows what you look like and he loves it or he wouldnt be with you..i am younger than you and much more inexperianced....but the thing i hate most is BJ's i hate it the taste and smell the whole thing..whats ur opinion
"Doing it right"? However you're comfortable is right. Woman on top is all about YOU....and you have to find what's good for you. You say your legs get tired....that's because you're squatting on your heels, and your thighs can't take much of that. Also, you're probably bouncing up and down....and that's also tiring. If you or he wants that kind of thrusting, then let him be on top.
Try it this way: Kneel, not squat. Position yourself so that you're comfortable. Balance yourself with your hands on your thighs, then start moving your hips in a circular grinding motion. It's not about jumping up and down, it's about slow sensuous movement. You'll get clitoral stimulation from rubbing against him, and if you're doing it right, you'll get some "g" spot action, too.
Any new position is difficult at first, but practice makes perfect. Most women love being on top, and being in control.....but it doesn't happen the first time.
I'll just add that my partner doesn't balance herself on her feet and squat often because it IS so tiring. She kneels, knees either side of my hips, and rather than a circular motion, she moves back and forth in a rocking motion. As she moves her hips forward she presses down so that she puts pressure on her gentials, then she slides back and repeats. She usually rests her hands on my chest to help her balance.
I'll agree about looking better on top too. There is no reason to feel self-concious about your body, especially while you are on top because everything looks better in that position!
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Being self-conscious about your body, he already knows what you look like so don't worry about what you look like on top.
Hon, I hope that you're not feeling bad about being inexperienced. I just wanted to point out that as your DF didn't know that answer to your problem, it indicates that he is also inexperienced. So, instead of getting frustrated - enjoy learning together....you'll only have the pleasure of being on this big learning curve together once.
Also, the others are right about your body. When he's laying there in extacy, he's not going to worry about your body. For that matter, he won't worry about it when he's not in extacy LOL. He proposed to you warts and all - and that's how he loves and accepts you. Instead of being self conscious, rejoice in his complete acceptance.
good luck to you, Aisha