How to get DH to be aggressive???

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Registered: 04-11-2006
How to get DH to be aggressive???
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Sun, 02-10-2008 - 10:16pm

How do I get DH to take the initiative sexually as well as be more aggressive at times? He is sweet and gentle and always concerned about me and I love that he is that way. I'd rather he be like that that always aggressive. But sometimes I wish he would be aggressive and just take me, you know? It would turn me on so much if he would just grab me, rip off my clothes and "have his way with me". But it's just not like him.


But It's not even that at this point, I feel like I'm the only one that even initiates sex at all.


I've talked to him about this. We have great communication. well, I guess I've talked to him about initiating sex, but not about being aggressive. He said that he guesses he was just "beaten down". Like when we were first married he was much HL than I was and he says that he just was tired of being denied. I understand but that hasn't happened for a couple years.

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Registered: 03-15-2006
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 6:54pm
Hi Maggie,

 Rich, good to the last drop

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Registered: 03-15-2006
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 9:17am
Anything new to report today?

 Rich, good to the last drop

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Registered: 04-11-2006
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 9:25am

well, we had a third session last night upon going to bed. We are both getting more comfortable with being more sensual and erotic, not just gentle and sweet in bed. It's a whole new world for us. And he is much more open to this than I ever imagined. in only one day of him being home - what a change already.


tonight maybe he gets his first strip tease/lap dance - or maybe save that for valentine's?? I bought some lingere that would better suit for this type of movement...and

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Registered: 03-15-2006
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 9:47am
Woo Hoo - he's a lucky man to have you girl.

 Rich, good to the last drop

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 9:49am

That's great news, Maggie!

We have a thread you might be interested in -- and you can help us reach our goal too!

We're trying to have *1,000 Nights* of Great Sex! Members post there when they have great sex, and it gets added to the tally. We're almost at the half-way mark, and hope to be having a party to celebrate tomorrow.

If you want to contribute, here's the link:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlletstalkab&msg=21069.1

Feel free to join in anytime!



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Registered: 01-25-2008
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 11:37am

OH MY GOSH!

 

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Registered: 04-11-2006
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 12:14pm

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YES!!!! so funny that you mention that. He walks in the door from work yesterday and comes over and grabs me and kisses me and puts his hand under my shirt ...etc. And I swear, every time he walks by he pats my bottom.


it was never like this before. I would almost have described our relationship as "professional". phone calls and discussion seemed to so often be about 'business'. But lately there has always been this air of flirting.


it feels great!


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Registered: 01-25-2008
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 4:23pm

That is so good for your kids to see that their mommy & daddy love one another too!

 

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Registered: 04-11-2006
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 4:29pm
how old are you guys? were you each others' firsts?


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Registered: 01-27-2007
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 1:12pm
I think your desires are common among most women.

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