how to get him fast

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Registered: 11-18-2001
how to get him fast
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Tue, 02-20-2007 - 6:46pm
in intercourse how to get him fast to get done? no fellatio
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 12:33am
You don't "get" him to do anything. He's the one who controls how long it takes, not you. If he's got a problem and he lasts TOO long for you, then ask him to stop, and let him finish himself.
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Registered: 12-19-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 10:14am

I'm not sure why you want him to be done fast, but enjoying what you are doing and what he is doing is key. Wanting him to hurry because you are not interested, is just a downer, and might make him feel selfish.

When I tell my DH I want to give him a quickie, he first gets in the mindset because he knows it's all about him and he doesn't have to worry about pleasuring me.

My DH definitely likes to know that I am enjoying myself while we have sex, and that's a huge turn on to him. Some of the things that seem to help push him over the edge are heavy breathing, dirty talk, a pleasured smile, long PC muscle hugs, groping at him, touching myself, meeting his thrusts or watching me (especially on top).

Again, if you are somewhere that you don't want to be, it's not likely going to help things along.



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Registered: 11-18-2001
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 3:59pm
But I was told if i can control my muscle down there i will have the ability to make him done fast.I am confuse who's right?
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Wed, 02-21-2007 - 7:52pm
Using your PC muscles will enhance the experience for both of you. Knowing when to use them can definitely be something that will help send him over the edge.


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Registered: 11-18-2001
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 9:36pm
Would you please tell me how to use it and when to use it?
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Thu, 02-22-2007 - 10:10am

You can strengthen your PC muscle by doing Kegel exercises. That is NOT going to make him be any faster. Even without Kegels, your PC muscle will contract when YOU have an orgasm...and that can give a man pleasure, but it will NOT make him finish if he's got a problem.

Again, if he's taking too long, then it's up to you (it's YOUR body) to tell him that you're tired, or you're sore, and you need to STOP.

If he's taking ridiculously long, then he's got a problem, and you can't fix his problems, only he can do that. A man who takes that long usually has some kind of emotional hangup. It's possible that he has a physical problem, too, but only a doctor can determine that. Whether it's emotional or physical, you can't fix him.

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 2:48pm
The same muscles that you use to stop your flow of urine are the muscles that you want to work on. It is pleasurable for both of you to contract (squeeze) those muscles during sex. Assuming that your intention is a pleasurable one -- wanting to push him over the edge quickly just for the joy of it, this is something that can help you accomplish that goal. My muscles are very active during any kind of sex and through practice, I have learned to hold them for a long time. Sometimes when I know that my DH is really excited (breathing rate changes, stroke pattern is intense, maybe some moans or dirty words), I sometimes tighten the muscle and hold it "with all I've got" and it intensifies his orgasm. My husband has really learned how to hold back his orgasms over the years (which is great), and sometimes I just have a personal little goal of "getting him". Usually it is a combination of things that accomplish my goal. I just try to sort of over stimulate him so that he can't concentrate on pleasing me, that sort of takes his orgasm out of his control. Anything that you are doing that seems to be particularly pleasing to him....just keep doing it and add a little bit to it. Try not to break the rhythm while adding more pleasure.


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Thu, 02-22-2007 - 6:47pm
THANK YOU hunt4o thank you and I think it's fun to watch him do his best to hold.