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how to get him to last longer
| Tue, 04-11-2006 - 10:09pm |
I have been with my guy for more then a year now and some times he will last for a long time but most of the time he really dosent last all that long and I was hoping that some one could help me find a way to get him to last longer. Any ideas?
Edited 4/11/2006 10:13 pm ET by with_this_knife
Edited 4/11/2006 10:13 pm ET by with_this_knife

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Duh. I don't understand. What do you mean?
Come on, this is pretty basic stuff for most women. After all, our clitorises contain TWICE the amount of nerves as in a penis. So, if someone should be going off quickly, it should be us but of course, we know it's more complicated than that. There are many psychological reasons why PE occurs as well.
And most couples, particularly, those with children, just don't have time to go at it for hours on a regular basis. The responsibility for learning endurance MUST fall on the guy, with the help and encouragement of his partner, of course. After all, it's HIS equipment he's learning to master.
I would never ask my DH to take responsibility for my orgasm or ability to respond.
The practical solution is to please your partner before engaging in intercourse while in the meantime, learning some control by using the stop and start method of masturbation AND dealing with the possible emotional issues contributing to the PE.
ITA. I have found that orgasm is 99.9% mental and it's all a matter of self control and learning your sexual response. Using the start/stop method, you can learn to identify your point of no return and learn to stop your orgasm. With a little effort and practice (And the practice is FUN), you can stop your orgasm without stopping the motion/thrusting and let it loose when you want.
I agree. All this talk of guys going off and having no control is, well, bull manure to a degree. It is something that can be learnt. Yes, it does help enormously if you are having sex regularly and masturbating regularly. Do that and you don't have the strong urge to orgasm at the drop of a hat. Use whatever method you want stop/start, masturbation or whatever, but you CAN "train" yourself to stop cumming too fast. Personally I found that regular sex in addition to normal masturbation here and there is the best way.
To the OP, if he doesn't masturbate then I'm not surprised that he can't last when he gets to the end of the week and has intercourse. If you had sex more regularly and/or he masturbated during the week when he couldn't see you then I firmly believe that he would (and will) have much better staying power.
Interesting replies so far.
I don't recall you mentioning that he lasts less than a minute, so I'm guessing he still is able to contain control. Just a guess.
What works for me is to just slow down or even fully if I have to. My wife is kinda accustomed to this, so her understanding and acceptance of whats going on has been the biggest help for ...can't say this works for other guys so keep that in mind.
I would think that as much as the mind plays a role in all this, it would still be remembered that different penises have different muscle strengths and different levels of sensitivity and you name it. It simply isn't always going to be a psychological factor all the time.
I learned what I learned through experience and experimentation. The more fatigued I am, the less control I'll have (reminder, this does NOT speak for all men, just my own experience). So I know during those times that I need to watch it when it comes to the type of IC that really gets me going. I need to thrust/grind with less depth than I normally would. I need to slow down or pause or pull out earlier than I normally would.
I've learned my physical system enough to really know what leads me beyond that control line and the Mrs. & I are aware of what I need to do to avoid that line until she is close to or actually satisfied herself.
Hope that helps along with the other replies. :)
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