How to hide my horniness???
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How to hide my horniness???
| Sat, 06-09-2007 - 9:29am |
How do I hide my sexual excitement when I am with a new man? Tonight will be the third date with him, and we will be going swimming, and there will be other people there as it's a small pool party for kids and he is chaperoning/babysitting. We will be the only adults there with a bunch of preteens, who are mostly his nieces and nephews. He has sexy arms and a nice butt in jeans and a t-shirt. Tonight I will be seeing him in swimming trunks, and I don't want to seem like some sort of nympho slut, but I know I will get incredibly excited the minute I see him. I will be wearing a fairly modest bathing suit, sexy enough, but respectable enough not to show too much skin, and it hides my flaws fairly well. It's more of an athletic look rather than a sexy look. This guy is very religious and wants to wait to get intimate (we had this discussion before we even met in person). Although my libido is sky-high, I am trying to turn over a new leaf and not jump into bed so quickly with anyone, so now I want to take the slow approach so that someone will respect me and get to know me for my heart and my personality instead of "wham bam, thank you mam". My question is, how do I control myself, should I purposely not look at him? Concentrate on having fun and playing lifeguard to the kids instead? I used to be a lifeguard, so I am trained. How do I turn off my excitement when I look at this guy? I don't want my pheromones flying in the air, which could make me look desperate or like a female cat in heat. HELP!!

I'd suggest thinking about baseball. That's what us guys do. *grinz*
Seriously though, try concentrating on having a real conversation with him. Talk about his nieces and nephews or something that will keep your mind off what you might really be wanting to do to him.
Remember - sexy guys have brains, too! *grinz*
Just don't act horny even if you are,
You may need to cross your legs instead of your fingers and toes!!!LMAO
Sounds like you a dealing with something typical for a young healthy woman. Your time developing your communication skills with this guy may pay off in the long run. Communication and trust are key to any long term relationship.
Good luck
I had (have) the same problem with a sky high sex drive. This time, when my last relationship blew up (never should have moved in with that guy but I was sleeping with him), I took the edge off with my rabbit (see toys) before going on a date. I didn't want to be jumping into bed with every guy I dated and it really helped. I held off till I met one that I actually felt like I could connect with in ways other than sexual! The only reason I had been through so many relationships over the past years was because I would jump into bed with the first guy that paid serious attention to me and would become attached before really knowing if he was compatiable anywhere BUT bed. Then I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings by sending him packing. But if you are satisfied (at least with the edge taken off) before you go somewhere with this fellow you should be able to handle it!
Sounds like a nice guy ... good luck with him!