How to initiate a hand Job

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Registered: 01-18-2005
How to initiate a hand Job
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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 9:44pm
What is the best way to initiate a mutual hand job with a female friend? What would not offend the lot of you?

 

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Registered: 11-18-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 3:14pm

Actually, I have a question about this HJ stuff. What is it about 'cumming on your breasts' that guys find so HOT? I don't mind it, I mean, I suppose it has to go somewhere. But I find that some guys seem preoccupied with it squirting all over a woman's bare chest. Why? I just don't get it......hmmmm.....

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Registered: 05-09-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 3:28pm
Yes it is the "normal progression" for many people. However for many of us the progression is very slow and fully of "what ifs" and "I wonder if". Many of us, especially when we are new to the sexual world are very affraid to interpret the other persons desire and intent. Our own insecurities hold us back.
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Registered: 07-06-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 6:19pm
Yeah, it has to go somewhere. It is an excellent skin cream with all the amino acids. Just kidding. It is a rather personal gift from a guy. If a woman won't accept it inside, having it contact her skin anyplace is good. My fav is to have a partner catch it in her palm, so she can experience the force and volume from a man close up. Having her run her fingers through and examine the seed is a turn on.
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Registered: 11-18-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 9:43pm

OK... so it's something 'deep' and 'sentimental.' It's a turn-on because it's as if she is accepting a very personal part of you....? I think I can understand that. Next time, I'll be all enthusiastic about examining and playing with the 'gift' --lol-- if I REALLY like the guy

-sammy

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Registered: 01-15-2005
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 11:03pm

Sammy's got it right and so does sumguy13.

But on the topic, I've always found most girls don't particularly like their hand guided to my penis. If you've been with a girl before it might be a sexy thing to do, especially if you know she likes to watch you touch yourself. But if you are in the beginning of a relationship, then she'll reach out and touch when she's ready to. If she's not reaching for you, spend more time on her, give her more attention. Just kiss and touch and fondle. Help her get ready before you expect her to be initiating a hand job.

And by the way sammy, it's the greatest thing in the world to have a girl who admires every part of you including your semen. And if you don't admire that part of them, move on to someone else.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Mon, 01-24-2005 - 12:07am

>>It's a turn-on because it's as if she is accepting a very personal part of you....? <<

I suppose that's part of it. If she's cool with you cumming on her breasts it is more intimate than squirting into a tissue. I thoroughly enjoy ejeculating on and over her vulva too - that's pretty sexy too. But breasts are good. One of the favourite body parts, a great visual combining the two things and it's really cool that she's relaxed and "sexy" enough to want to do something like that.

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Mon, 01-24-2005 - 2:24pm

I think you're assuming that ALL men are the same, though, and they aren't. Some men are more attached to their semen than others and get a thrill seeing it shot all over their lover's face or body.

My DH has never been interested in doing that and doesn't understand what's so thrilling about it for other men. Yes, it happens as a result of sexual activity at times, but it's not something he tries to do.

So, no, not all men get thrilled seeing their semen handled, examined or shot all over their partner. It's just a bodily fluid.




Edited 1/24/2005 6:01 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-24-2005 - 2:35pm
We're all insecure at first, though, whether in our very first relationship or just a new one. We're interpretting the signals of someone new and there's always a risk in that.

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