How to intiate a bj??
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How to intiate a bj??
| Thu, 02-03-2005 - 12:37am |
Hi um im new to this whole oral sex thing but my bf gives me oral pretty regularly now and id really love to return the favor BUT im not sure how to intiate it... he hasnt actually um gone down on me... BUT he has fingered me and kissed me everywhere ;) um except there but i can tell he wants to.. he makes little comments or hints... but i know he wont do anything unless either im going crazy and hes REALLY into the moment OR i go down on him first... but i dont know 1.) how to um do a proper bj to satisfy him and 2.) intiate the whole thing. So um if u all could give some advice id really appreciate it :)

Sorry, but I'm confused, you said:
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So which is it...does he give you oral regularly or has he never gone down on you?
As far as your questions...talk to him. The easiest way is to just tell him you want to go down on him, and ask him what he wants you to do. All men are different and they all like different things, so you'll get the most accurate answer from your bf himself. However, if for some reason you are uncomfortable with talking to him about it (and if so, you probably shouldn't be having sex with someone you can't talk about sex with) you could always just initiate a hand job and start kissing around the head of his penis. That will initiate the act, and you can ask for instruction from there.
Good luck.
Angel
P.S. I recognize you're name from the virgin board. I know you said you aren't that young, and that you do know about the reproductive system. But the questions you asked on that board, REALLY gave me the impression you didn't. Please do some research on your own body, and on his, before you get caught up in risky behavior that you don't understand. Talk to a doctor and get on Birth Control, you seemed very afraid of getting pregnant, and you really need to understand all the facts before you continue being intimate.
I agree with Always.....you seem very young, and very confused about sexuality in general, and oral sex specifically. If he's giving you oral sex....then he's "gone down on you". If he hasn't, then he's not giving you oral sex.
You know he won't do anything unless you're going really crazy, or he's really into the moment, OR you go down on him first. Again...none of this makes any sense.
If you two are old enough to be doing this stuff, then you're old enough to talk about it, and find out what he wants from you, and what you want from him. If you can't talk about it, then you have no business doing it.
As the others said, if your b/f hasn't *gone down* on you then you haven't received oral sex.