how to introduce lube

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Registered: 10-24-2003
how to introduce lube
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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 3:59pm
I have a date with a new partner, and I'm always feel embarrassed to bring up the subject of using a lubricant. I don't lubricate enough on my own. I always worry guys will think they don't arouse me, which is not the case. Anyone have a similar situation? Are guys turned off by women who don't lubricate much? thanks.
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Registered: 10-25-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 4:16pm
I would just bring it up when you are discussing protection/birth control--probably before you actually get into doing anything. With my BF, when I knew we would be doing the deed for the first time, I had a little coin purse that matched my purse and I filled it with condoms. Then I popped it out when we were making out and getting ready to head to the bedroom--he was cool with everything. Good Luck! :)


 


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Registered: 10-24-2003
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 4:30pm
thanks for your reply!
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 4:48pm

Hi nygal! I agree with weird_me2 and suggest bringing it up or simply bringing it out when either the issue of protection is or when the condom itself is. This to me is the obvious appropriate time bring this to light.

I remember one lady back in the past mentioning that she had said "Sometimes I just need a little bit of help with the lubrication..." with a shy giggle, and had never had a problem or even felt embarrassed or uncomfortable.

Just an idea I remember, hopefully there'll be some more that can help ya too.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 7:44pm
I don't think that you should feel embarrassed about it all. Just ask him to wait a moment, grab it and you don't have to say anything - you could just say something like "Sometimes I need a little help" and shrug. It's no big deal really. If anything extra lubrication is a lot of fun and makes everything much more enjoyable.