How long...

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Registered: 11-06-2004
How long...
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Sat, 11-06-2004 - 3:01pm
This is a little embarassing, but I am a virgin and my boyfriend and I have been talking about having intercourse and I am wondering how long it lasts. I know that it is very different for everyoen and at different times but I have no idea and am nervous as to what to expect and would like to know what type of expectant time range it will last. Thanks for those who reply!
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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: calledmoo
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 3:15pm
3 -5 minutes is average. But it can range anywhere from a few strokes to an hour - it all depends on how long he lasts. If this is your boyfriend's first time, expect shorter rather than longer for a while. The excitement will probably get to him ;-) If it's not his first time, he should be able to give you some idea of how long it lasts.

Have you got the whole contraception thing sorted out?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: calledmoo
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 4:03pm
Any where from a few thrusts to whenever, some guys can last a long time.

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Registered: 11-06-2004
In reply to: calledmoo
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 4:39pm
Sex can last any amount of time, though yes perhaps 5 mins plus. It depends on *so* many things. Because it's his first time with you he will no doubt be exceptionally excited and happy, that can shortern the time of sex. However, sex can last for up to an hour or more depending on how fast/slow hard/gently the lovemaking is and it's also a personal preference, sometimes people want to have a long session and be gentle or hard, some people sometimes want it to be fast. Everyone likes trying everything, so it is also your choice, in that sense.

I personally feel that communication is essenial, perhaps try talking to him, tell him you are nervous. You may wish to tell him you want it gentle and slow to begin with, tell him what it is you want and perhaps at least it can start like tha so you feel happier and more at ease.

The first time can make you a little nervous but if you love him and he loves you then I am sure you will both have a lovely time. And yes, remember to be protected. =)

-x-Robyn-x-

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Registered: 10-28-2004
In reply to: calledmoo
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 9:07pm
Like everybody else has said, it all depends on him. I don't mean to discourage you or anything, but I'm going to tell you this to kind of warn you. For you, being a virgin, it might hurt, it's like someone is pinching you down there. Also, make sure you take care of yourself! Good Luck!!!
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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: calledmoo
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 11:26pm
I've heard girls who are scared about it being painful (it shouldn't be if you're doing it right), or about what to do, or how to do it......but never about how long it will last. Your question makes me wonder if HE's the one doing the talking about it, and if you're ready for all this. In most cases, once you're experienced, the longer it lasts, the better, and that CAN be a long time. How long it will last is one of the least things you need to worry about.

If he's trying to talk you into it, and you're not sure about it, then DON'T!!! Giving in to him is NOT going to keep him interested, and saying no is not going to make him leave you......not if he truly cares for you.

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Registered: 11-06-2004
In reply to: calledmoo
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 12:32pm
Greenteabag is right. I know we don't know the situation, but just incase it *is* your boyfriend who is trying to guide you or talk you into it, then don't let yourself do *anything* that *you* are not happy with. Everyone is nervous about the first time, yes, but make sure it's with the right person.

With my first time it was exceptionally quick, no protection because we didn't really mean to do it, lasted about 10 seconds because of no protection and it was silly. I cried the entire night afterwards. I did go out with him for 2 and a half years after, so in some ways he was the right person, in some ways he wasn't. But 3 years down the road I am still wishing that my first time had been different. So make sure you do it exactly how you want and make it special.

As Green said, if he loves you he will wait and believe me, wait for a long time if they love you for you and not for sex. Just have a great time and be happy, don't do anything you're not happy or comfortable with 100%.

-x-Robyn-x-

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Registered: 09-11-2004
In reply to: calledmoo
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 8:39pm
my first time lasted an hour and a half, believe it or not. But there were a few extenuating circumstances to that. We had had oral sex previously that day and he was wearing a condom which made him last longer. But it definately made it memorable. And a great story too:p Now our sessions are about 20 minutes long, depending on how fast we feel like going...
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Registered: 10-23-2003
In reply to: calledmoo
Tue, 11-09-2004 - 10:57am
How long does what last? I mean where do you start. My first time took 3 months. That was just to get her into bed. After that it may have been all of 30 seconds. Everyone is different. Take as much time as you have and enjoy it.

Jim
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: calledmoo
Tue, 11-09-2004 - 1:18pm
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