how long do you do kegels

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how long do you do kegels
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 7:29pm
Before you see the maximum result you will have? What has everyone's experience been? I want to know how long to do them and how often before going on to the vaginal tightening surgery.

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 7:59pm

Why do you feel you need vaginal tightening surgery?

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 8:17pm
As tish said, it could take weeks or months to see the results. I do kegels a few times throughout the day.



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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 8:17pm
Because I can cum in 3 minutes with anal and it takes 20-30 minutes with regular sex. And it's a tighter hole so I think if I tighten the other one up, it'll feel better and I'll cum faster.
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 8:21pm
Why do you want to cum faster? Why not just enjoy it? What's the hurry?


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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 8:55pm

I have the same question as nhgal2006, why such a hurry to orgasm, why not just enjoy the whole experience without making an orgasm a *goal*?

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 9:08pm
*Doing kegels during IC also feels good to the guy*

Oh yeah.......

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 9:53pm

Welcome to the board kitttykatttt.

I'm with the others, what's the hurry? The reason you are having an orgasm quickly during anal is because of the total sensations you are feeling, not because it's a tighter spot. (That logic might work for a guy, but not the female.)

If your guy is able to last 20-30 minutes during intercourse, you're pretty lucky! As Tish said, gripping him with your PC muscles will feel good to both of you, and it might help you reach orgasm quicker. Personally, I wouldn't be in a rush unless I was going for multiple orgasms.

As for how long you will need to do the exercises before you see a noticeable difference, I think that differs for each individual. I do think once you get in the habit of doing them, and you learn to enjoy doing them, it becomes a nearly unconscious event.



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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 10:16pm
Maybe it's kind of silly, but my BF works a lot of hours, we have 5 kids between us, he has an elderly father that needs assistance and a very sick brother that also needs assistance and I work PT too and I take care of everything as far as the household stuff, so we're often very tired. Sometimes we're both horny and we have to skip it because we need sleep. Where as if I could come from regular sex in 3 minutes or so, it would help a lot. Plus he feels like he isn't doing a good enough job when he can't make me cum super fast. Even though I try to point out that I'm very happy with him and at least I do cum every time. But he's not reassured.
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 10:28pm

I don't think it sounds silly at all when you explain it that way. I'm not sure that exercising your kegels is going to change the amount of time required for you to orgasm by so much. It usually takes the average woman 15-20 minutes to reach orgasm, so expecting it in 3 minutes from intercourse is not very realistic.

Perhaps if your guy understood that, he wouldn't pressure you, or feel that he isn't meeting your needs. Orgasms are just more complicated for woman then they are for men.

Have you ever tried having quickies? I love to give DH a quickie. I don't plan to orgasm, and he knows that it's all about his pleasure. That really takes the pressure off when there isn't a lot of time. While having an orgasm is great, it's not always necessary to enjoy the event.



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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 10:44pm
I do stimulate the clit the same way for both types of sex,but the regular sex takes a lot longer. THen his fingers are big,so his two fingers are thicker than his dick and I can cum in about 10 minutes from his fingers,where as the sex takes 20-30minutes, so that's why I'm thinking if I was smaller/tighter I'd cum faster, hope that makes sense. Plus it upsets him that I cum faster from the anal and from his fingers, like he feels he isn't doing as good a job during regular sex.

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