how long do you do kegels

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Registered: 06-08-2007
how long do you do kegels
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 7:29pm
Before you see the maximum result you will have? What has everyone's experience been? I want to know how long to do them and how often before going on to the vaginal tightening surgery.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 10:49pm
He likes quick bj's occasionally, like maybe once every week or two, but we both don't feel right unless we both cum. He feels likes he's failed if I don't and I feel very frustrated, unless we know going in it's going to be a quick bj (vrs. the regular longer bj) But he's only done a quickie for sex twice the whole time we've been together, he just has a mental block against it for some reason,and will only very very rarely do it.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 06-21-2007 - 2:01am

You need to explain to him that he's not "doing a job". Your orgasms are up to you, not him. And basically, they come from your clitoris, not your vagina. And, by doing the kegels, you're stimulating your clitoris at the same time.

The kegels will never tighten your vagina, anyway. They tighten the PC muscle at the opening.

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Thu, 06-21-2007 - 1:01pm

They are right about the inside of the vagina having a LOT less nerve endings which are the main mechanism needed in reaching orgasm. Because the anus has many nerve endings it can make you easier to arouse with anal i/c. Tightening your vagina WILL not make you orgasm quicker though simply because of the lack of nerve endings there. At the least it is going to make him reach orgasm more quickly which will still leave you out of it.

Kegels will help make you seem tighter though and because most of the nerve endings in the vagina are at the first inch of the entrance (where the muscles will be tighter from the kegels) that may help. Have you considered using an egg or butterfly vibrator on your clitoris during sex? Not only will that make you cum faster, it will feel good to him too.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Thu, 06-21-2007 - 1:14pm
Yes I've considered it. But I'm scared.So many people tell me it's not true,but I'm scared that it'll feel too good and I'll only be able to cum using the vibrator. Even when I've been by myself I've used vibrators but I've always been afraid to turn them on. But maybe I could just do it once and take it slow to make sure I can still cum in other ways, not just with the vibrator.
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Registered: 05-11-2007
Thu, 06-21-2007 - 1:19pm
Oh my dear! Don't be afraid of it. I have been using good vibrators off and on for 10 years now and the sex is better than ever for me because I learned what does feel good. Turn on one of those vibes and go for it! You truly are normal in needing that 20-30 minutes to reach orgasm so if you want to make it a quicky and do in 5 or less break out a vibe for your clitoris! You may train yourself to orgasm faster but I wouldn't count on that. But it won't make it any harder for you to orgasm normally unless you over-imbibe!

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