How long do you wait?

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Registered: 11-04-2004
How long do you wait?
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Fri, 12-10-2004 - 8:01am

Here's a discussion/survey for you all. How long do you typically wait to go to bed with the person you're dating? Assume you're in a relationship that you both are comfortable and attracted to each other. What's the average, hours, days weeks, years? Just curious as to what you guys say...

Laura

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Registered: 09-21-2004
Fri, 12-10-2004 - 10:33am
I typically wait till at least the 3rd date, because by then, I usually have a good idea of whether I want to keep seeing him or not, and plus I'd want to be able to talk to him about it (sex) being exlusive during that time.
-Mel
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Registered: 12-08-2004
Fri, 12-10-2004 - 11:44am
I like to wait til we have dated about two to three months. This way I know that I am really attracted to him and that he is also interested in me and not just sex. I do not think there are too many guys out there who would continue to date a girl for two months if all he wanted was sex.
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Registered: 11-30-2004
Fri, 12-10-2004 - 3:27pm

With my current boyfriend, I waited three dates, but that's because I knew he was very into me, and I had a great connection and knew he didn't just want me for sex. It would just depend on the guy. If it was a flaky guy, I would obviously wait longer if I thought he could be just using me. However, if i just wanted a booty call I would sleep with him on the first date, hehe
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 12-10-2004 - 6:36pm

Well, I've only had sex with two men ... the first was my xh ... we were in high school ... we knew each other for about 9 months, dated for about one before I caved.


The second, the man I'm dating now, took 3 months. I was fresh from a divorce; he hadn't had sex in 7 years. We both wanted to be in the right place emotinoally before we did the deed. I'm glad we waited.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Fri, 12-10-2004 - 7:47pm
We do it when we're ready. Usually in my situation we have met one another several times or known one another for a while even if we haven't dated so it isn't completely out of the blue. I guess that if you put it in to dating terms, we'd wait a few dates. Doing it on the first date wouldn't be completely out of the question if we were both OK with it and comfortable with one another.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Fri, 12-10-2004 - 8:22pm
Well, with my current bf I waited 3 weeks before we did the deed. I regretted it after we had had sex for the first time because I thought I'd never see him again (although that wasn't really possible since we work together lol) and I was wary of him afterwards...but as it turns out we have been going for almost 6 months now
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Registered: 10-17-2004
Sat, 12-11-2004 - 11:43am
I can't give an answer...it entirely depends on how I am feeling about a person. I won't be intimate with anyone until I feel a connection. With my current boyfriend it was about 7 weeks....