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How long should I wait?
| Sun, 08-05-2007 - 12:38pm |
I've been on a couple of dates with this guy and I'm already ready to give it up to him. I've only slept with two men in my life and both of them I've known for over a year. I don't think I'm going to give it up to this man that quickly, but at this rate, he's gonna wait waaaaaaaaaaay less than a year! How long should I wait? I don't wanna come across as easy...

When you feel the time is right, that's when you should have sex with him.
Welcome to the board muhlissuh8201.
Like Tish, I think you'll know when the time is right and it has nothing to do with being easy or not.
I agree with both the other ladies. When it feels right for you, go for it. I finally met my soulmate (after 48 years) and he felt the same way I did the night we met. I wanted him so badly then and he knew it (he was the same way) but I made him wait till our second date and then I just couldn't hold out any more. He was impressed that I didn't sleep with him the first time we were together because he knew how badly I wanted to! But then again, we are both mature adults (both 49 now) and neither of us were inexperienced. But if you date the guy a few times and pet heavily AND he knows how bad you want him but you hold out for a little bit, he is going to respect the fact that you didn't sleep with him right away. But you don't have to wait more than a few dates for him to see you with respect if you feel it is right to sleep with him. Of course, it depends on how his outlooks are too. Best thing is to let him know how much you want him and see what his reaction is.
Good luck to you, let us know how it goes.