How long should I wait?

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Registered: 08-05-2007
How long should I wait?
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Sun, 08-05-2007 - 12:38pm
I've been on a couple of dates with this guy and I'm already ready to give it up to him. I've only slept with two men in my life and both of them I've known for over a year. I don't think I'm going to give it up to this man that quickly, but at this rate, he's gonna wait waaaaaaaaaaay less than a year! How long should I wait? I don't wanna come across as easy...
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sun, 08-05-2007 - 1:48pm

When you feel the time is right, that's when you should have sex with him.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 08-05-2007 - 10:46pm

Welcome to the board muhlissuh8201.

Like Tish, I think you'll know when the time is right and it has nothing to do with being easy or not.



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Registered: 05-11-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 10:50am

I agree with both the other ladies. When it feels right for you, go for it. I finally met my soulmate (after 48 years) and he felt the same way I did the night we met. I wanted him so badly then and he knew it (he was the same way) but I made him wait till our second date and then I just couldn't hold out any more. He was impressed that I didn't sleep with him the first time we were together because he knew how badly I wanted to! But then again, we are both mature adults (both 49 now) and neither of us were inexperienced. But if you date the guy a few times and pet heavily AND he knows how bad you want him but you hold out for a little bit, he is going to respect the fact that you didn't sleep with him right away. But you don't have to wait more than a few dates for him to see you with respect if you feel it is right to sleep with him. Of course, it depends on how his outlooks are too. Best thing is to let him know how much you want him and see what his reaction is.

Good luck to you, let us know how it goes.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:12pm
it really is not about holding off. or putting out to fast its about the compatibility and the way you feel about him, the connection. i have only been with 3 men in my life, my first i was with for three years before i put out, my second i knew of and seen him around alot we started coversating for three straight days and he hit it off. my third which iam currently with. we meet eachother on the street and ended up connecting and when we kissed whoa it was bueatiful. that one night stand ended up being a 3 year relationship and still going know with a child on the way. after the one night stand i felt so disgusted and dirty cuz i never have one before but hay sometimes you have to live on the edge and we are still together. my advise is if you feel like he deserves it and you honestly think its more than just a one night stand feel free, let yourself loose and get yours. but if you think he's gonna trash your name and degrade you and leave you then your better off just masterbating, and pleasing yourself. honestly when i feel like someone just wants to get some from me and not be in a relationship then i just take care of mines in the bathroom. thats really relaxes you, just think of him while you do it, LOL