How long is too long?

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Registered: 08-30-2006
How long is too long?
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 4:00am

I just started a new relationship and I was wondering how long is too long when it comes to waiting to have sex? Everytime we are together, it gets more and more intense to the point where it's all I think about. Which is a little unusal for me.

Please tell me somebody!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 7:12am

There is no amount of time to wait, there are no rules and there is no right or wrong.


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Registered: 07-26-2005
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 9:36am

That's got to be your own decision, based on your own morals, beliefs, and feelings. No one can tell you what's right for you!

What I CAN tell you is that I've never heard anyone say they waited TOO long, but I've heard many women say they jumped into sex too fast.....based on "chemistry" rather than real "feelings" about the person. Those are the ones that wonder two or three months later if the guy is hanging around because he cares about them, or because he cares about the sex. Also, particularly if he's the one pushing for the sex....that's no guarantee that he'll be around next month!

Most new relationships are passionate, but unless you know someone very well, you can get trapped into a situation where you're so blinded by the great sex, that you refuse to see that the "relationship" is not a good one, you excuse bad behavior and you stay in a situation for the wrong reasons.

As Tish said, some people who have sex on the first date wind up getting married and living happily ever after.....but then, so do many who wait until they're sure about the relationship.

This is a decision that you have to make for yourself.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 12:17am
It's up to you. Personally I'd think of it like this: If I had sex with him today and he broke it off with me next week (because of some other reason) would I regret having had sex with him? If not, then go for it.