How long before your first orgasm?
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How long before your first orgasm?
| Mon, 07-09-2007 - 2:05pm |
This question is probably more for the women. I think most guys orgasm the first time they have IC.
After you started having intercourse, how long was it before you had your first orgasm with a partner? Oh, what the heck, let's include heavy foreplay, too!
Now I guess I'll make a liar out of myself. I'm a male, but I had some ED problems with my first partner. It probably took me 4 or 5 times to have my first orgasm from foreplay/IC, which included some penetration during which I lost my erection.
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I actually had my first orgasm ever during partnered sex. I know there was clitoral stimulation as well. I think it was a couple of months after I became sexually active.
Since that relationship, I have had a couple of partners that I don't recall ever having orgasms with. Those weren't long term relationships though. As far as any longer term relationships that I've been in, I usually have had orgasms from the beginning of the relationship. The exception to that would be with my DH. He had some problems with ED when we first became sexually active, so it took a little longer to get that sorted out.
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I don't think that it would have happened as quickly as it did had my partner not shown interest in my enjoyment and encouraged me to explore myself. He was also a military man and knew I'd be alone sometime and he wanted me to have options without a partner during periods of his absence. He was an incredible Husband and I still miss him allot.
Welcome to the board nvrhd1.
Have you had orgasms during masturbation? Feel free to give us as many details as you are comfortable with. I'm sure the members here have advice that you might find helpful, but the more we know, the better we will be able to help you.
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I had my first orgasms before having IC. First one was while I was sound asleep, when I was about 16 years old, second was with a BF during a heavy make out session, with lots of kissing and he was fooling around with my breasts.First one during IC was shortly after I started having IC.
Since it is more difficult for women to have orgasms, the better you know your own body -- and how it responds -- the more likely it is that you will have an orgasm. I know that my first orgasm was during intercourse with clitoral stimulation. I'm 44 and still can't successfully masturbate with my fingers alone. I know it's a mental block, but I can masturbate in other ways. Personally, I use a hand held shower massage the most often when masturbating; however, vibrators are also helpful.
While it may take a while for you to become comfortable with masturbation, it really is the best way for you to learn about your body. Including a vibrator during partnered sex is also a great way to have an orgasm. For most women, clitoral stimulation is essential.
If you want to learn a little more about your sexual response system, there's a great website, www.the-clitoris.com. This article by Tracy Cox is also great:
Know Thyself: The Female Form 101
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexsolo/0,,traceycox_b6vtmjv3,00.html
Hopefully some of the information between the two sources will be helpful to you. Reading through some of the various posts here may be helpful as well, but if you ever have specific questions, feel free to start a new thread.
Stay determined -- it's definitely worth it!
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