How to Make him Stop

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Registered: 12-01-2003
How to Make him Stop
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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 5:05pm
How can you explain to a guy you're getting tired of the sex when he's non stop pumping? I mean after round one a few mintues he's ready for round two. So I told him wait a mintue so i could catch my breath and then said ok lets go...but the second time took 3 times as long as the first and I got really tired, sweaty, my legs were killing me, and I was getting sore because I was just all dried up after a while and not into it. He kept on trying and trying, and I felt bad to make him stop, but it just became ridiculous. I then tried to finish him off by hand, but god, even that took forever and a day to the point where he just took over....phew! I never had to deal with this before and I know all guys are different and I want to be easier next time, but what if it happens again? Please any advice would be great. Has something like this happened to you?
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 5:20pm
You TELL him to stop, that's how. Sex is supposed to be a pleasure, NOT a marathon! If once is enough, then don't DO it a second time. There are two of you in that bed, and you have the right to say no more. He'll get over it.

He's supposed to be giving you pleasure, NOT proving to himself what a "man" he is, despite the fact that you're exhausted.

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Registered: 04-19-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 5:47pm

If my partner ever takes ages (usually after much alcohol)

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Registered: 07-28-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 1:49pm
don't let him continue... you are both there to please each other, but that doesn't mean involving unnecessary pain and discomfort for you. if you feel bad about stopping completely to rest (which I've done before, just ask my bf!!!), continue to play. kiss on him, move his hand down between your legs and help him get you in the mood again, ask for a massage, give him oral, snuggle up close to him and, while resting, slowly and sensually play with him. take a break and get out the ice. :-) there are ways to take a break and rest, without stopping completely.