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How many more partners do you want?
| Wed, 03-02-2005 - 9:57pm |
If you could have your druthers, how many additional people would you have sex with before you die?
(Please don't say anything so corny as one or zero.)

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Well, I guess I am a lousy wife because even though I am happily married I wouldn't mind a few extras partners, perhaps a few female ones as well. As much as I love my husband, I am still curious about others. BUT, since I am happily married it will just stay to fantasy.
Leticia
Yeah well my DW would not like it either. I say 80% of all women because it would be fun. My DW is great but the OP did say "if"
mb
Edited 3/7/2005 11:30 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
Kat,
Great response.
I realized long ago that the "idea" of sex with another was what most people are attracted to. The reality is that it is never as good with someone that you have not known intimately for many years. Sex with my wife has gotten better every year for the past eighteen years. We trust each other more, we know what the other likes and dislikes. We feel safe enough to explore our sexuality together without the fear of judgment.
I know that some feel that they can only let out their "wildside" with a stranger. To me that is very sad, because if you don't feel safe enough to do that within your relationship, then you really have not allowed deep love to grow in your relationship. Deep love involves trust and the belief that your partner is perfect as they are.
I find many, many women attractive, but not as attractive as the intimacy that my wife and I have developed during our marriage and so I am much more attracted to her, because I know her deeply; I know the sound of her breath when she's asleep. I know that when that little wrinkle between her eyes shows, she is going to cry during some dumb movie. I know her scent and the way that she moves when she's excited, happy, aroused or angry. But at the same time I'm consistantly, pleasently surprised at the "newness" of her. It never seems dull to me. In some ways, it's the best of both worlds: I can make love to the "newness" in her while at the same time feel comforted that I am making love to a partner that his been at my side for most of my adult life.
Peace.
Scott.
I agree, it's the idea that's appealing rather than the reality. Because what do most single people look for? A partner. What do many married people think they want? Different partners.
A momentary attraction can in no way compare to a lifetime of experiences and history with one partner. It will be what it is....a momentary physical attraction. And IF that was really satisfying down to your core, then it wouldn't be necessary to keep repeating the experience with someone new. There's just no contest, IMO.
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