HOW MANY ONE NiGHT STANDS 4YOU?

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Registered: 12-01-2003
HOW MANY ONE NiGHT STANDS 4YOU?
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Wed, 11-08-2006 - 10:44pm

BE HONEST LADiES.. HOW MANY ONE NiGHT STANDS HAVE YOU HAD iN YOUR LiFE? DiD YOU REGRET iT?
WAS iT WHAT YOU EXPECTED? WAS iT GOOD OR BAD? DiD THiS ONE NiGHT STAND BECOME A LOViNG COMMiTED RELATiONSHiP??? JUST ASKiNG..................

HERE iS MY VERY OWN ANSWER TO THiS Q:

YES iVE HAD ONLY ONE NiGHTER. iT WAS WiTH A GUY i WENT TO HiGH SKOOL WiTH..WE WENT TO A MOViE & WENT BACK TO HiS PLACE.. AND BOOOM* ONE OF THOSE "iT JUSS HAPPPENED MOMENT". i WAS SiNGLE AT THA TiME..BUT HAD JUST BROKEN UP W. MY BOYFRiEND. i DiDNT REGRET iT BUT iT WASNT GOOD.. ONLY FOR ABOUT 5 MiNUTES ....LOL --AFTER THAT ONE NiGT STAND i NEVER TLKD TO HiM AGAiN BUT i SEEN HiM iN THE STREET AND HE WAVED "Hi" TO ME.. WEiRD RiTE??? BUT i DONT PLAN ON HAViNG ANYMORE.. UNLESS THAT UH-OH "iT JUSS HAPPENED MOMENT". HOPE SOME OF YOUR ONE NiGHTER WAS MORE FUN THAN MiNE!!

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 3:58am

I would have actually defined a one night stand as a one-off sexual encounter that didn't result in a relationship myself, but I know the sort of thing that you are talking about.

I'm a guy and I've probably had 5 or 6 ONS's. One of them was an absolute disaster and resulted in an ambulance being called the next morning and copious amounts of humilation and embarrassment being handed out. Others were nothing to write home about, another drunken one resulted in tears and emergency contraceptive pills all around, and then those awkward "What do I say?" moments whenever I saw her again. Another couple went better and resulted in relationships.

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Registered: 12-09-2005
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 8:08am

I have never had one... I would just feel trashy and used and I don't want that. And for your story, I don't think it's weird that he waved to you at all... common courtesy actually.

-Nikki

P.S. It's kind of annoying when you type in all capitals...


                             
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Registered: 01-07-2005
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 10:01am

I've had two and while I wouldn't make a habit of one night stands, they were great.

The first one didn't result in actual intercourse because it was my first adult sexual experience but we did do oral and I had a great time. He was very good at what he did and was very accepting of my inexperience. I learned a lot that night! We'd met online and met each other once before to have lunch together at uni. Neither of us wanted a relationship (that was very clear beforehand) and we kept in touch as aquentances for a short time afterwards. I might have done it again with him, but he moved away.

The second one was with a guy I met while I was on student exchange. He was hot and interesting, plus I had just broken up with long term boyfriend who had smothered me. Like the last time, I hung out with him once beforehand as a test, then had a one night with him. He was also very good, was very respectful and being with someone new was very thrilling. I think he wanted something to come of it as he talked to me a lot afterwards, but while I liked him as a person, I can't see myself getting involved with someone I had sex so quickly with. He ended up dating a friend of mine who went on the exchange with me and, as far as I know, they're still very close. I talk to him on messenger occasionally and I hung out with him when he came to Canada, so I do think of him as a distant friend.

So anyway, my experience with one night stands has been very good, but both times I was careful to make sure I was doing it for *me*, I listened to my gut when picking guys, I met up with them beforehand to make sure they had some respect and self-control, I didn't act on impulse and I used protection.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 10:14am

Not really although it could have been a ONS.


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Registered: 01-07-2005
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 10:27am

I've had two and I don't regret either of them even though I was drunk during the first one.

Even though the first one wasn't my idea, it definately served its purpose because he broke my cherry. For some unknown reaason as a teenager I never wanted my future husband to be my first (do this day I still cannot explain the reasons why I thought/wanted this - but it was something I was very conscious of and this thought never faultered from age 15-19).

Now the second one was totally my idea and again it served its purpose well. He was my reintroduction into sex after a 9 yr sex hiatus and I firmly believe that this event helped me become sexually comfortable with my overweight body and release me from body/sex issues created in my marriage.

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Registered: 10-18-2006
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 12:14pm
I'm with Tish...way too spoiled by DH to think about a ONS. Even in high school, it just wasn't something that happened...

 

 

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 2:30am
i have had a few ons they were lame and stupid and yeah i regret those because you do feel trashy but this ons resulted into me getting pregnant me and the guy had alot in common we met online but after the ons i freaked out and never talked to him again until i found out i was pregnant and called him we are now married and we just had our 3rd baby 8 days ago and i couldn't be happier and would definetly not cheat on my husband or think about cheating