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| Thu, 08-05-2004 - 2:51pm |
Whats the average amount of sex a commited couple has a week. Obviously its going to vary couple to couple, but my sex life is diminishing... We used to have sex two times a day (long distance/only saw eachother every other weekend) but now I am lucky (and I STRESS lucky) to have sex once a week. I am very much in shape (not that it should matter) I try wearing sexy underwear, and skirts and stuff. Its like he's not turned on by me anymore. The other day I actually started stripping to which he handed me back my shirt and told me his friend was coming over before too long, and I should put my clothes back on. I felt like I had just gotten punched- Here I am in my early twenties (once again not that it should matter) and Im stripping for you, he wanted my clothes back ON??? I dont get it- what can I do to increase the sex. I refuse to guilt him into that- I don't want pity sex. HELP~
TIA
TIA

Leticia
If you want to know what his problem is, then you have to ask him. And, since you're going to pre-marital counselling, I'd SURE bring this up. Don't think church counsellors haven't heard of sex! I definitely wouldn't consider marriage unless you can get this straightened out to your satisfaction.
YES you need to raise this during counseling. Most churches, among Protestants anyway, place VERY high value on husband and wife relationships both in AND out of bed. Now keep this in mind, skee, this would be solely for the purpose of the possible problem, NOT for the purpose of solving it. BIG difference, right? If you're going to have counseling help you sex issues, beyond the communication issues anyway, then that'd be better for an actual sex counselor in my honest opinion.
Perhaps it'd help to get additional views from those on The Secrets of Married Sex message board as well:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlsecretsofm
Congrats on getting married soon!
:)
C h a r a c t e r
above all else
Mr. Para
C H A R A C T E R
Most people find that their sex lives slow down a bit after the "honeymoon period" in a relationship...since real life creeps in and demands your attention again. That's normal though.
IF you aren't getting your needs met now, then talk about it and ask for what you want but accept that compromise is the name of the game.
If I recall correctly, a recent Dr Phil show said that 3 times per month is average for married couples.