How normal is this?

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How normal is this?
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 12:58pm

Okay, I'm sure everyone is going to have differeing opinions, but I was curious how normal is this, or if it's something I should care about.


My bf and I were talking about masturbating the other day. I asked him how long he's gone w/o sex and masturbation. He said............"no more than one week". I asked him since like he was young? He said he had no idea since when, but probably at least before he was 20.


Now, he DOES have a high sex drive, so I can understand "needing that release", but I guess in the back of my head, I just thought, wow, that's a lot. I wonder if that's some sort of issue that could be a BIG issue one day.


So, is that normal? I guess as long as two other men say yes, I won't care. If everyone says no, um, what should I do?

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Registered: 12-22-2003
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 1:09pm
If I averaged it out it would probably be like that!LOL! I discovered masturbation when I was 14-15 & have done it enough to average out to more than once a week since then. It just depends on my appetite I suppose...And if she doesn't feel like it & I do....Nothing to worry about though.

Stephen

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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 1:11pm
I'm a female, but that's normal for me. I'm pretty sure I haven't gone longer than a week without masturbation or sex since I was 20 (I'm now 31), with the exception of a few times when I was under major stress. And honestly, most of the time I need a release more often than that.
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 1:12pm
More than once a week for me, ever since I was 13 or so, whether or not I was in a relationship or regularly getting sex.
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Registered: 02-23-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 1:23pm

Okay, so that's enough for me to know it's normal...even for the ladies. =) I know for myself, I think I've masturbated at least once a week for who knows how long, and yet, at the same time, I've gone w/o longer. So, I was just wondering.


Thanks.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 1:53pm
If you know anything about young men, you know they masturbate. Older men do too. And MORE than once a week. Even those in a good relationship! Masturbation has nothing to do with sexual addiction. It has to do with "what comes naturally"!

The only time masturbation becomes a problem is if they prefer THAT to their partner. Guys can be laying in bed right next to you, and still masturbate. There's nothing abnormal or freaky about it.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 2:37pm

Oh, I know men of all ages masturbate more than once a week. That wasn't the question, nor the issue. It was about HAVING TO MASTURBATE at LEAST once a week. Big difference, well, it is to me.


Also, assuming you HAVE to do it, can be a sign of sexual addiction. I knew a man who said he'd masturbate before work, at least 3 times AT work, right after work and before he went to bed....EVERYDAY!!!!


That to me is a problem. Espeically because he felt he HAD to do it. I dunno. would you consider that a sexual addiction? Or just healthy?


Also, I never said I had a problem with his masturbating. I have none at all. Besides, in all honesty, it

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Registered: 10-23-2003
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 2:57pm
Once a week is a long time. Till I was 35 or so if I didn't have an orgasm from something once a day I would have a wet dream. I never thought I was oversexed.

As a mtter of fact I was in the hospital with a catherder in me for 3 days one time. When I got out I ejactulated 3 times on the way home. No stimulation or erection just ejactulation.

So if your guy wants to masturbate once a week I don't se a problem.

Jim
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 3:00pm
As long as he's not holed up in his room, whacking away each day, then he's probaby pretty normal. IF you're happy with your intimate life and not feeling neglected because of his masturbation, then it's not a problem.

I would only be concerned if his life is being affected adversely or he seems preoccupied with it. Doesn't sound like the case though.

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Registered: 05-14-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 3:31pm
I haven't read the other posts yet but I am quite sure I am echoing others when I say that he is completely normal. Before JT and I were sexual with each other, he got off at least once a day. After we became sexually active, we were only able to have sex on the weekends and I asked him to limit himself to no more than twice during the week so it would be that much better during the nights we were able to spend together. Yeah, right. He couldn't even do that!! LOL He went over once or twice every week so finally I just gave up. Most men have an extremely high libido from their late teens all the way to their early thirties. So your guy is no less normal than the rest of them...
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 5:36pm
sweetbutterfly...The libedo doesnt wane, for many men, ever!..Im 50 and my equiptment works as well as it did when I was 20 and my desire is still the same.I am an extremely fit man. That could be the reason.

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