How normal is your orgasm?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2006
How normal is your orgasm?
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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 4:36pm
How normal is your orgasm? According this article: http://www.savvymiss.com/reviews/must-have-products/must-have-products-archives/article/april-must-haves-964.html
42% of women orgasm during sex. I'm not so sure I believe that. Probably because I've never orgasmed. Am I the only one?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2007
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 4:50pm

You havent even had a orgasms manually?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 11:41pm

I don't see anything in that link about "normal" orgasms. What is a "normal" orgasm, anyway? And what would be an "abnormal" orgasm? Everyone is different, and whatever they have, it's "normal" for them. Don't believe everything you read. It's meant to sell magazines, or web sites, or whatever.

When you say 42% of women orgasm during sex......All women who have orgasms have them during sex....or do you mean during intercourse, which is a part of sex, but only one part. Even masturbation is sex....solo sex. Actually, 80% of women don't have orgasms from intercourse alone. If they have them during intercourse, it's usually because they're getting clitoral stimulation at the same time.

You are certainly NOT the only woman who's never had an orgasm. There are some women who reach their 40's and 50's without ever having one, and some never learn how. And you know what, they still enjoy sex, in all it's forms. Orgasms aren't necessary to enjoy sex. They're a bonus, not a necessity. For most women, it's a problem because they're too worried about it. When they learn not to be concerned about it, and just learn to enjoy everything they feel during sex.....it'll happen. As long as it's a goal, it'll never happen.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-25-2007
Fri, 04-27-2007 - 1:44am
ok well my friend believes theres a big difference between coming and orgasming..at first i was like, no its the same thing, but now i think there is a difference coming is like OH YES but orgasming is like OOOOOOOOMMMMMMMMMGGGGG if u know what i mean i dont know if that was relavant at all but what do u think?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 04-27-2007 - 7:37am

The link that you posted is not going to an article. I have noticed that all of your posts here include a link to that site. Perhaps you should do a search on iVillage for similar topics, as you might find comparative articles that way.

Here's a link to a poll that I posted this morning. It might shed some light onto the various ways that people have orgasms during sex:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlletstalkab&msg=20014.1&ctx=0

Here are a few articles from iVillage that you might find enlightening:

Sex: How Does an Orgasm Feel?
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/sxarousal/0,,4pch,00.html

"Why are my orgasms more intense during masturbation?"
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638353_634298,00.html

The Dire Truth about Conventional Orgasms
An excerpt from "Unleashing her G-Spot Orgasm"
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/sxarousal/0,,9w9z10xq,00.html



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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
Fri, 04-27-2007 - 9:19am

Having an orgasm is an intense "feeling" that rushes over you. "Coming", or "cumming" has always been slang for a man's ejaculation. It has been discovered that women can also ejaculate. Males usually have their "orgasm" (usually called the "climax" in men) and ejaculate at the same time.

It's entirely different for females. A woman can have sexual relations and NEVER have an orgasm, but completely enjoy what she's doing, unlike a man, who will probably suffer from "blue balls" (pelvic congestion) if he doesn't ejaculate.

A woman can be multiorgasmic, but never ejaculate. For a woman, the two things are separate and different. A woman can ejaculate without an orgasm, and vice versa. Ejaculation usually comes from "g" spot stimulation, and an orgasm from clitoral stimulation.

Many people confuse a woman's natural lubrication with ejaculation. They are two entirely different things. Female lubrication, which can be profuse, is thick and opaque (similar to a man's ejaculate). Female ejaculation is thin and watery, and clear. It can be a large amount, and completely soak a bed. It doesn't come from her vagina, it comes from her urethra.....which is why it's sometimes confused with urination.

If you want to completely understand your own body, and how it works, there is a world of information on the internet, factual information! Type in any word, orgasm, female ejaculation, clitoris, and you'll get more information that you can ever want. A good place to start is www.the-clitoris.com Then you can explain it to your friends.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2007
Fri, 04-27-2007 - 12:26pm
I don't seem to orgasm very easily during sex. So you are definately aren't the only one!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-28-2006
Fri, 04-27-2007 - 3:22pm

I can orgasam during IC but there's a technique to it.
There has to be a grinding motion in order for it to happen.
girl on top works for that and so does missonary. But if it's side ways.
Or doggy syle it just doesn't work without a little help. If you know what i mean.
That's how it is for me anyways.

Kareese