How normal is this?

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Registered: 02-23-2004
How normal is this?
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 12:58pm

Okay, I'm sure everyone is going to have differeing opinions, but I was curious how normal is this, or if it's something I should care about.


My bf and I were talking about masturbating the other day. I asked him how long he's gone w/o sex and masturbation. He said............"no more than one week". I asked him since like he was young? He said he had no idea since when, but probably at least before he was 20.


Now, he DOES have a high sex drive, so I can understand "needing that release", but I guess in the back of my head, I just thought, wow, that's a lot. I wonder if that's some sort of issue that could be a BIG issue one day.


So, is that normal? I guess as long as two other men say yes, I won't care. If everyone says no, um, what should I do?

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 5:47pm
Same goes for my hubby too. His erections are rock hard and he's 55.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 5:48pm
Absolutely humpdaddy! IF you're healthy and happy, then age has nothing to do with libido or desire. My DH is in his late 40's and he's still going strong.
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Registered: 10-09-2003
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 6:18pm
Both my DH and I still masturbate often and we still have a very active sex life. Orgasm is very healthy and does the body good. He's almost 49 and I'm 46 and there are times when I'll masturbate twice in a day and still have sex too. I encourage masturbation as long as it doesn't take away from the sexual relationship and it's not affecting your daily life or you're becoming a recluse. ;-)
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 5:53am
>>That wasn't the question, nor the issue. It was about HAVING TO MASTURBATE at LEAST once a week. <<

I don't think that anyone HAS to masturbate at least once a week.

I'm sure that most guys would think that they have to. It's not gonna kill them and they aren't going to go psycho or anything because they haven't masturbated. They'll be super horny and feel a bit sexually frustrated but that's about all. Most would probably start to have wet dreams after a week or so - you know, dreaming about it and ejeculating in their sleep.

But hey! It's healthy, fun and fat-free, so if a guy has got a spare 10 minutes, why not?

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 7:27pm
Thanks everyone. I'm glad to know he's normal. And I have nothing to worry about whatsoever. =)
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 7:36pm
i think its normal and not a symptom of a "sex addict" and you should have no cause for concern...i too have not gone a week without sex or masturbation since before i was 20 years old either (i'm a female)....i'm curious, how long do you normally go without sex or masturbation?

honey

    

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 2:44pm

I dunno. Ever since I've kinda lost my sex drive, going for more than two weeks doens't bother me. And to be honest, I don't feel like I have ot masturbate all the time. W/o Sex? I dunno. I think the longest stint was 6 months, sadly I was married at the time, and prolly masturbating ALL the time. lol.


otherwise, no more than a month or so, as I'll find a FWB, as for masturbation, before my bf was around, I'd masturbate a few times a week. Now that he's in my life....and I think it's my BCP's...for the most part, I don't care if we have sex or not, and I don't really even have an urge to masturbate. I know that sounds harsh, but my sex drive goes up and down an my BCP's made it all screwy. Before it was always set on HIGH. Now, it's on, LOW. Sucks.


But, either I suffer pms (on a scale of 1-10, 10 being highest, i'm at 2 now, 10 off bcp's, and most others, around a 7 or 8) and be a total B to my bf around that time, but have a VERY HIGH sex drive, or i stay on the ones i'm on, and live around a 2, but have no sex drive.


Sucky choices if you ask me.


i guess the reason I've asked is because I can do without and live my life and not ever feel like I'm getting blue balls or anything (you knw what i mean), but I guess I never understood why ppl feel they HAVE to masturbate. I aksed him if he could go without longer....and he just said, "no". so, to me, that meant he feels he HAS to masturbate. i dunno. it's just weird to me. and i was worried cuz he HAS to. So if for some reason I can't have sex with him and he can't masturbate, what's he going to do? get a bj or handjob from someone else? burst into flames? die? lol. i'm kidding, but you know. just wondering.


i'm babbling. sory.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 10:23pm
I'm a female and I am good for at least 2-3 a week. Fiance does at lease 2-3 a week plus sex together.

I think its TOTALLY TOTALLY normal for guys or girls. Plus, whatever is normal for him is normal. Whatever is normal for you is normal. Everyone is different. If it itches, scratch it.

Sara

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 10:47am
Have to agree with the rest of the posters: my wife and I have sex three or four times a week, and I masturbate from twice a week to four times a week (wife is about the same). This is pretty normal.

Peace.

Scott.

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