How normal is this?
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| Tue, 06-29-2004 - 12:58pm |
Okay, I'm sure everyone is going to have differeing opinions, but I was curious how normal is this, or if it's something I should care about.
My bf and I were talking about masturbating the other day. I asked him how long he's gone w/o sex and masturbation. He said............"no more than one week". I asked him since like he was young? He said he had no idea since when, but probably at least before he was 20.
Now, he DOES have a high sex drive, so I can understand "needing that release", but I guess in the back of my head, I just thought, wow, that's a lot. I wonder if that's some sort of issue that could be a BIG issue one day.
So, is that normal? I guess as long as two other men say yes, I won't care. If everyone says no, um, what should I do?

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I don't think that anyone HAS to masturbate at least once a week.
I'm sure that most guys would think that they have to. It's not gonna kill them and they aren't going to go psycho or anything because they haven't masturbated. They'll be super horny and feel a bit sexually frustrated but that's about all. Most would probably start to have wet dreams after a week or so - you know, dreaming about it and ejeculating in their sleep.
But hey! It's healthy, fun and fat-free, so if a guy has got a spare 10 minutes, why not?
honey
I dunno. Ever since I've kinda lost my sex drive, going for more than two weeks doens't bother me. And to be honest, I don't feel like I have ot masturbate all the time. W/o Sex? I dunno. I think the longest stint was 6 months, sadly I was married at the time, and prolly masturbating ALL the time. lol.
otherwise, no more than a month or so, as I'll find a FWB, as for masturbation, before my bf was around, I'd masturbate a few times a week. Now that he's in my life....and I think it's my BCP's...for the most part, I don't care if we have sex or not, and I don't really even have an urge to masturbate. I know that sounds harsh, but my sex drive goes up and down an my BCP's made it all screwy. Before it was always set on HIGH. Now, it's on, LOW. Sucks.
But, either I suffer pms (on a scale of 1-10, 10 being highest, i'm at 2 now, 10 off bcp's, and most others, around a 7 or 8) and be a total B to my bf around that time, but have a VERY HIGH sex drive, or i stay on the ones i'm on, and live around a 2, but have no sex drive.
Sucky choices if you ask me.
i guess the reason I've asked is because I can do without and live my life and not ever feel like I'm getting blue balls or anything (you knw what i mean), but I guess I never understood why ppl feel they HAVE to masturbate. I aksed him if he could go without longer....and he just said, "no". so, to me, that meant he feels he HAS to masturbate. i dunno. it's just weird to me. and i was worried cuz he HAS to. So if for some reason I can't have sex with him and he can't masturbate, what's he going to do? get a bj or handjob from someone else? burst into flames? die? lol. i'm kidding, but you know. just wondering.
i'm babbling. sory.
I think its TOTALLY TOTALLY normal for guys or girls. Plus, whatever is normal for him is normal. Whatever is normal for you is normal. Everyone is different. If it itches, scratch it.
Sara
Peace.
Scott.
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