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| Thu, 05-13-2004 - 12:31pm |
I have always heard that men want to have sex all the time, and women have to be in the right mood, etc. But for me I want it all the time, and my boyfriend usually does but sometimes is too tired or grumpy or whatever. It's not a problem, we do it several times a week. But it just makes me wonder if that stereotype has any truth in it, or am I unusual? I would do it every day, and I never turn him down even if I'm tired or grumpy because I want it so bad.

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Leticia
Libidos can be all over the scale, for men OR for women. The trick is to find someone with a matching libido, or who will at least compromise so you're both happy. It sounds like you and your partner have done that. There are some people who want sex every day, or several times a day, and there are some who are happy doing it once or twice a year.
Libido depends a lot on your mind, as well as hormone levels. It also depends on health, which is where "age" comes into the equation. Older people can be just as sexually active as younger people, unless their health is bad.....and that usually can't be helped.
Some people can't enjoy sex because they were raised in a home where sex was treated as BAD, or nasty, or in a repressive religion. Some get over it, some never do. We're all different, male and female.
If you're happy with the way things are, don't worry about what "others" think or want. Whatever makes YOU happy is all that counts, not what other people are doing. I think the "average" for sexual activity is about 2 or 3 times a week. But, to get an average, you have to factor in the "daily" people, and the once a year people. Very few people are actually "average". Don't question your sexuality, just enjoy it.
Well, I guess I must be different because I DO think about the act and not fantasies so much. I do agree with you, women do think about it as much as men. At first I thought I was weird, because I could be thinking about anything and it would turn into sexual thoughts. Now I realize I am normal and just go with it ;o)
Leticia
I think those are old stereotypes. Women want and like sex as much as men. (well some of us) And some men have lower drives. I too am a High libido woman, I want it all of the time, if a I stressed I want it that much more. I have only ever said no to my DH 2 times in our 14 years together. Once was I had a migraine coming on and was feeling sick to my stomach (I tried at first but the movement was making me feel worse) and the other , I am sorry to say, was out of spite for all of the times he had turned me down.
RSRosey
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