How Old Were You Your First Time
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How Old Were You Your First Time
| Mon, 11-22-2004 - 5:31pm |
I ask this question because it seems like there are an awful lot of very young girls on here discussing having sex. I was 17 my first time, but had been with my boyfriend (who I am now marrying) for over a year before then. I have always valued the fact that I've only ever been with one man, and its alarming to me how many young girls are having sex early and irresponsibly, and then moving on to the next partner. What do you think?

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Here's a thread on age at first time sex under the folder *New to Sex*.
i was 22. i was with my first boyfriend, to whom i am now married.
i wish younger women had more sex education, particularly about their own bodies, and also were raised in an environment where sex can be discussed openly--that way they can choose rightly, rather than for some unsettling reason.
but, i do think that teens are capable of choosing their partners, and when it is the right age for them to begin having sex--particularly 14/15 yr olds. i hope that those who do are educated an dmake positive sex choices, but sadly most teens having sex (heck, most adults even) come to it from very little education or self knowledge.
as for number of partners, etc, i have no real opinions on this. what is right for me )whch is aparently only one partner) may not be right for someone else. Also, perhaps i'll have other partners in the future--one never knows.
I was 20 with my bf at the time.
>>>I have always valued the fact that I've only ever been with one man<<<
Well, it's a nice thing to take sex seriously. You are still very young (I assume?), if you're lucky enough to be in this relationship happily for the rest of your life, it would be wonderful and great, but what if the relationship goes down the drain or something unexpected happens..? Sorry if I sound discouraging... just want to point out that the thought that "I want to be with only one man in my life" can be a burden. I have seen a female friend who hung on to a bad relationship just because he was her first (they were together for 5-6 yrs), and the breakup was so painful for her because she couldn't let it go. It took her couple of years to move on, she's now finally free from the burden of "virginity = rest of her life" and started to see and have sex with other men, searching for her true prince.
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