How Old Were You Your First Time

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How Old Were You Your First Time
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Mon, 11-22-2004 - 5:31pm
I ask this question because it seems like there are an awful lot of very young girls on here discussing having sex. I was 17 my first time, but had been with my boyfriend (who I am now marrying) for over a year before then. I have always valued the fact that I've only ever been with one man, and its alarming to me how many young girls are having sex early and irresponsibly, and then moving on to the next partner. What do you think?

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Registered: 11-03-2004
Mon, 11-22-2004 - 5:36pm
I was 14. Bad girl.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 11-22-2004 - 5:50pm

Here's a thread on age at first time sex under the folder *New to Sex*.


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Registered: 04-24-2004
Mon, 11-22-2004 - 5:55pm
Thanks, I didnt see the other post:) I agree with you completely on responsibility. I have seen a lot of girls here worrying about being pregnant because they didnt use protection, thats why I was concerned. But like you said, its their business!
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Mon, 11-22-2004 - 6:17pm
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Mon, 11-22-2004 - 6:50pm
I was 18 when I had sex. It was 3 months after my b/f now fiance had sex. It was both our fist times. We have been lucky and have had sex for over a year and haven't gotten pregnant. We have been going out for over a year and half and are getting married soon.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-22-2004 - 6:56pm

i was 22. i was with my first boyfriend, to whom i am now married.

i wish younger women had more sex education, particularly about their own bodies, and also were raised in an environment where sex can be discussed openly--that way they can choose rightly, rather than for some unsettling reason.

but, i do think that teens are capable of choosing their partners, and when it is the right age for them to begin having sex--particularly 14/15 yr olds. i hope that those who do are educated an dmake positive sex choices, but sadly most teens having sex (heck, most adults even) come to it from very little education or self knowledge.

as for number of partners, etc, i have no real opinions on this. what is right for me )whch is aparently only one partner) may not be right for someone else. Also, perhaps i'll have other partners in the future--one never knows.

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Registered: 03-28-2004
Mon, 11-22-2004 - 7:19pm
You know I'm glad zoebird_yogini said "i hope that those who do are educated an dmake positive sex choices, but sadly most teens having sex (heck, most adults even)" Because its not always younger teens making the bad desicion. Yes, teens are having sex at young age, but isn't it also adults who are doing it becuase they want to have sex, hookers, whores, strippers showing teens that hey I do it so heck you can too. Adults can't blame teens for the crap that goes around in the world. Not saying all adults are resopsible, but if teens had more sex education they would be smarter and choose wisely in having sex or wait till marrage. I agree with zoebird.
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Mon, 11-22-2004 - 7:29pm
I did understand where you were getting at, I was expressing the same opinion on age. SOrry if it was confusing:) I know exactly how it becomes everyone's business when someone has sex irresponsibly and gets pregnant. My older sister had a baby at 17, so I saw it firsthand. Thats why I was concerned with all the posts describing someone not using protection. Thanks for pointing it out.
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Registered: 10-28-2004
Tue, 11-23-2004 - 1:18am
I always thought that I was going to be a virgin on my wedding night. I was 22 the first time I had sex, with my first boyfriend, who was 20 at the time. I have always known that the first man in my life would be the last, and now I am happily married to him. I've only been with one man, and although we were still dating the first time we did, both of us knew that we wanted to marry each other, it was just that we couldn't wait any more! But again, to answer the question, I was 22.
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Tue, 11-23-2004 - 5:42am

I was 20 with my bf at the time.

>>>I have always valued the fact that I've only ever been with one man<<<
Well, it's a nice thing to take sex seriously. You are still very young (I assume?), if you're lucky enough to be in this relationship happily for the rest of your life, it would be wonderful and great, but what if the relationship goes down the drain or something unexpected happens..? Sorry if I sound discouraging... just want to point out that the thought that "I want to be with only one man in my life" can be a burden. I have seen a female friend who hung on to a bad relationship just because he was her first (they were together for 5-6 yrs), and the breakup was so painful for her because she couldn't let it go. It took her couple of years to move on, she's now finally free from the burden of "virginity = rest of her life" and started to see and have sex with other men, searching for her true prince.

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