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How Should I Ask...?
| Fri, 07-01-2005 - 2:09pm |
... my new guy what he likes in bed? Sex is definitly very good and he cums so I feel like I am doing something right...LOL. But he is also very quiet (I am very vocal) and I would like to "blow his mind". I know this sounds like a silly question as it should be obvious...just ask him! What is a good way to ask him - without sounding like I am in a porno movie :) (i.e. what do you you want me to do? what would you like?...) what he likes? I also don't want to sound like I totally lack confidence either...just a bit unsure with a new guy. Any ideas? Thanks!

Being unsure in the beginning of a relationship is normal. You have no idea what he's used to or what he likes. He may be very conservative, or he may be wild.....but toning it down a little in the beginning.
Remember, that he's having the SAME thoughts. He wants to know what you're used to, and what you like......so unless you're both mind readers, you have to talk.
Yes, it should be very simple.....Just talk to him OUT of the bedroom about things you can do with and for each other, ask him for suggestions, give him suggestions, and go from there. Unfortunately, some guys (and some women) can't talk freely about stuff like that......and you'll get answers like, "I don't care" or "Whatever YOU want is fine with me" or "I love it all". If you get an answer like that, then TELL him that's not what you want to hear. Whatever you do, don't tell him what your ex did that you loved.....and if he tries to tell you about an ex, tell him you don't want to know about that......you just want suggestions. It's NEVER good to bring ex's into the discussion.
You don't even have to say you've done it before, but you could tell him you've heard about (whatever) and always wanted to try it, and how would he feel about that?
Bottom line is if you can DO it, you should be able to talk about it.