how to....2 things...help

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how to....2 things...help
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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 10:10am
i hate when things get quiet. any tips on moaning during sex? i always feel 2 embarassed to do that but i want to make it good. Also how do u feel it best when being on top without looking like a complete idiot???
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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 11:33am

>>>any tips on moaning during sex? i always feel 2 embarassed to do that but i want to make it good.


I'm not sure what you mean. If you mean what I *think* you mean ""i want to make it good"" then being vocal and moaning during sex isn't or shouldn't be an act or a performance.


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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 12:11pm
any tips on moaning during sex?

*For me, I do like to make noises, moaning and otherwise, because i think it heightens the mood. i realize how i am mentally stimulated by hearing others make noises, and i have brought this up to my SO, who is basically silent during the act. for me, i know this sounds dumb but i basically use my breathing and just add my voice box to the breathing, so it comes out naturally, just like my breathing. again this may be weird, but i also sometimes whine a bit. overall though, i do have to be into it to make any noise, b/c i'm not gonna fake interest. but i use moaning/noises as a verbal expression of my interest when i am feeling it. also, my SO REALLY loves hearing it, it lets him know that i am into it. i would say try it slowly, every girl is capable of making noises, you just have to find your own types and style of noises. and make it come naturally, not faked. it will come naturally once you feel comfortable.

Also how do u feel it best when being on top without looking like a complete idiot???

*i'm not sure what you mean by this question....do you mean moaning while on top? or just being on top? yeah i suppose you bring up a good point....i don't tend to make sounds when i'm on top, i don't know why. probably my focus is elsewhere. but again, it is a comfort thing. you have to feel comfortable with the person and with what you are doing.

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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 12:14pm
I agree with imblushing. If you're "quiet", there's nothing wrong with that. It's the way you are, and to put on an act would be just as phoney as faking an orgasm. I don't think most women "moan" anyway. If anything, they SAY things....like, "0h, that feels so good", or "yes, that's it, don't stop". But even saying things is not neccesary, and if you do it for effect, you're too busy thinking instead of enjoying what you're doing.

The same goes for being on top. WHO would think you look like an idiot? If you feel that your b/f would think that, then you shouldn't be with him. Do you really think he'd lay there and think that? Come on! Your problem is that you're too worried about what's going on, and what he's thinking. I have news for you, he's not thinking ANYTHING! He's enjoying himself, and that's what you should be doing.

Stop thinking about what you sound like, and what you look like, and start thinking about what you're doing, and how good it feels, and how happy it makes you.

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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 1:48pm

As the others said, moaning isn't going to make it good.


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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 3:15pm
To me, moaning just comes naturally. If it feels as good as it should feel, those moans just come out, LOL. If you are worried about what you look like while on top, try wearing a pretty, lacy and very revealing teddy or bra. Make him slowly take it off of you. With the sight of your exposed breasts, he'll is going to be thinking all very good thoughts! ;)

Other than that, if you have feeling self conscious, get all made up, curl or style your hair the way that looks best on you. Look your very best.

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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 5:28pm
Hi queen!

I've got to admit that the wife & I are guilty of "trying too hard" at times. I believe we do it every other blue moon just for the sake of complimenting, but I agree with the others that it isn't really needed and to just stop "thinking" and just enjoy. I believe Tish put it best:

>>Sex shouldn't be about what looks best or sounds best, it's about mutual enjoyment not a show.<<

C h a r a c t e r


above all else


Mr. Para

 

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Sun, 08-01-2004 - 9:11pm
I read in a magazine that 77% of guys and girls say its a turn on when moans etc. are made in bed. Ahh, Ooooo, and Mmmm's are the complete turn on. its like adding the icing to the cake. so don't worry, there all normal noises, he won't be shocked. but maybe more turned on ;)
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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 3:10pm
When I first started dating my boyfriend, a friend a mine had given me advice to moan because guys like it. When I brought that up to BF, he said, "don't do it because it sounds good, just let it happen." So I was pretty silent when we were intimate. I didn't moan, didn't dirty talk, nor did I really tell him what I wanted him to do. He is my first boyfriend and I was very shy in the bedroom.

Now, it's a totally different situation. I moan, I dirty talk, I tell him how good it feels and how much I want him. It just happened naturally. I don't even think about what I'm saying and I don't plan on what to say. I just let it happen. I really didn't start moaning until about a month after we started having sex. As my comfort level rose with BF, the moans just starting coming out. Our sex life is sooo much better now that I've reached that comfort level with him.

So, my advice is this. Don't think about it. If and when you reach that comfort level with your BF, the moans will happen on their own. I was actually a little surprised when I let out my first moan, but I couldn't help it, it felt so good. Don't plan it or do it because its a turn on. Otherwise it's just an act and will not enhance your sex life.

And as far as being on top, I think that also requires a comfort level. Being on top is so rewarding for me and BF loves it too. It is now my favorite position! When I really get into the love-making, what I look like doesn't even cross my mind. So get on top, move those hips and ride away! You will get a completely different sensation than him being on top and he will certainly enjoy it too.


Edited 8/3/2004 1:16 am ET ET by katoka

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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 3:07pm
I am a moaner and very loud at that and my bf really likes it. But I don't think it matters that much. What is weird about me though is that I get very quiet when I orgasm. I used to be embrassed or uneasy when I was on top but my bf loves to be able to grab or suck on my breasts and also loves to see how he looks going inside me. Just knowing how much pleasure he got out of it helped to relax me alot.