Husband has a ODD fantacy?!

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Registered: 05-14-2007
Husband has a ODD fantacy?!
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Mon, 05-14-2007 - 1:07pm

My husband wants me to have sex with another man in front of him, he says because he gets pleasure out of watching me...which i think is odd. He says he would be in total control of the situation making the man stop anytime he says so. We've never invited anyone into our bedroom before, yet he keeps on about this. Does anyone else think is weird? OR have you expierenced this?

Edited 5/16/2007 2:22 pm ET by mrs.schultz




Edited 5/16/2007 7:34 pm ET by mrs.schultz

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Registered: 05-26-2006
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 9:45am
Ok how stupid am I? The first time I saw this subject, and for the next few hours, I was thinking the letters O-D-D was an abbreviation for something. I just could not figure out what it stood for. Finally my tiny brain got it, its just the word "odd". I cant believe I just admitted this.
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Registered: 05-17-2007
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 1:05pm

Let me get this right.. he is willing to let you have sex with another man? anyone YOU want?all he wants to do is watch? where is the problem? you have permission to have sex with any another guy and the best part: HE IS OK WITH IT!!! how could you not take advantage of a situation like this! you get to pick any guy you desire and screw each others brains out.. Hun i say you go for it there are millions of girls that would love to be in your position and plenty of guys willing to step up to your plate!! So pick one OR MORE if he lets you! Let us know how it goes!! just out of curiosity how old are you and your husband where about are you two from?

Jason

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 4:30pm
My dh also asked me if I wanted another man. He thought if I really wanted he would be willing to go along. I told him no way another man was goin to be intimate with me. I think he offered because it is a bit of a fantasy for him to see me being so enjoying giving oral and recieving vagina penetration. And also sometimes DH just likes to watch so I happily masterbate infront of him. We just agreed that we would use a dildo and that would be my "other man". Works for us.



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Registered: 01-27-2007
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 4:17pm
hey, if you get the chance read my new story I wrote on the Fantasies board titled "Being Watched." It deals with this topic
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 5:12pm

Yes, this is odd, though not unheard of.

Seriously though, does he really think he can get the other guy to "stop any time he wants"? Have you ever known ANY man to just stop in the middle of great sex simply because he's asked to? Come on.

And what circumstance would lead your husband to ask the guy to stop...if you were having too much fun? In that case he's jealous that the other guy is getting you off. If you AREN'T having any fun, then he'll be pissed that you weren't giving the situation an honest chance at success.

Not sure I see how this can be a win-win situation if you're not really into it, and it doesn't sound like you're really into it.

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Registered: 06-24-2004
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 5:45pm

Mrs. Schltuz

Sorry I did not see this one sooner. It looks like both sides have already been presented, all three need to have the option of saying no, stop at any time then stop for a little while take a breath, stop for the day or just stop, that is if you and your husband decide it will expand your relation-ship and not hurt it.

Jason B. S.

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Registered: 03-28-2004
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 10:04pm
My husband is the same way! He said that seeing me turn another man on would make him remember what he has. I love my husband so much and don't want to be with anyone else so I am in the same boat you are. I don't know what to do except tell him I won't rule it out but not right now.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 05-19-2007 - 6:43am

Welcome to the board hunting4answers.

I wouldn't want to be with another guy either, and I think what you plan to tell your DH is a good plan. You might want to also talk with him about other fantasies you can share together if he keeps bringing it up. Many people use toys and videos to substitute for this type of fantasy.



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