Husband TOO tired :(

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Registered: 08-11-2007
Husband TOO tired :(
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Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:51pm

This might sound stupid but...what are the chances of getting pregnant w/o my husband ejaculating? My husband and I are trying for # 2 however,he complains he (and his penis)are too tired! He is not "finishing" the job (if you know what I mean). He insists that I could get pregnant even though he didn't finish. Is this true? And what are the odds percent wise?

Thanks for the help :)

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 1:05pm

Anything is possible, but it's highly unlikely. Even if he doesn't ejaculate, there is the pre-ejaculate....which contains sperm......and it only takes ONE. Women have been known to get pregnant without a penis ever being inside the vagina......every drop of semen contains thousands of sperm, and even from the outside of the vagina, it's possible for one to get in there and complete it's mission.

The bigger problem is what's going on with your husband? Why is it taking him so long to ejaculate? If he was that "tired" he probably wouldn't even get an erection! If it takes him forever to ejaculate......he could get "tired" of trying. But why is that happening? Is it something recent? Is he on any new medications? Is he taking an antidepressant? Are you sure he really wants a second pregnancy?

It sounds like something more than he's too tired to finish is going on....and you should try to find out why THAT is happening. If you can't figure out the answers, then maybe he needs to see a doctor to see what's going on with him.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 1:54pm

Welcome to the board goin4two.

I think the odds percentage wise are very low. As Sakura said, the bigger problem might be why this is happening in the first place. She brought up some excellent ideas, and asked some good questions.

Was this happening this way before you were trying to conceive? Are you trying too often to get pregnant? (The sperm count is actually lower if you are, so that's not the best route to take either.) Why is he so tired?

If the two of you can't figure out what's going on with him, as Sakura said, he should get checked out by his doctor. Having any type of erectile dysfunction can be a sign of medical problems.



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Registered: 08-11-2007
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 4:17pm
Thank you very much for your reply. I'll let him read this and see what he says.
I think it is something other than he's just "too tired" as well. I might be the one to blame b/c I have gained weight and he might not be attracted to me anymore.
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Registered: 10-28-2006
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 4:36pm

hahah! I am living proof that the pulling out method does not work!!!
That's how we got our first child! lol. It took a good 6mon befor i
got pregnant but it can happen! Also if you have sex during your obulation
period then you have a great chance of getting pregnant. That's how
we got our 2nd child! It was my birthday and i was in my birthday suite!
LOL best birthday ever!

Hope this helps.
Best wishes to you.
Kareese.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 11:32pm
Don't blame yourself for his problem. It is HIS problem, and you gaining some weight is not going to cause this. It's ludicrous to think that someone who loves you is going to be "turned off" by a few extra pounds, or even a lot of extra pounds.....but the truth is, if he WAS turned off by you, he wouldn't even get an erection! Whatever his problem is, it very likely has little or nothing to do with you.
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Registered: 05-11-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 9:58am

I agree with most of the other posters here. There sounds like there may be problems you need to address in your marriage before you even consider bringing another child into the situation! If its your DH health that should be checked out, if it is something emotional that is even MORE reason not to try for another child right now.

It makes no sense that he is able to have sex then not able to continue to completion if he has regularly in the past. There is something going on there that needs to be addressed for sure. Are you sure he really WANTS this second child? Or are YOU the one that wants it? That would be my first thought. That he is holding back because perhaps he isn't ready to become a dad again yet. But that is just my opinion.

Good luck to you.