Husband wants to swing
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Husband wants to swing
| Fri, 07-23-2004 - 2:55pm |
Hello, I need help here. I have been married 2 weeks, but we have been together for 4 years and living together for 2 of those. We ea have 2 kids of our own and keep pretty busy. My husband and I tried swinging with another couple to spice up our sex life, there was no full swap, just same room sex and a little of f/f play. I did this mostly to excite my husband and fulfill his fantasy. I thought that one experience would be enough but then he wanted to meet the same coupleagain, so we did. That time it was ok but kind of boring so we ended up calling it a night and he didn't bring it up again for a few months. Now he is back to looking for new couples on the website. Originally he had said his only fantasy was to watch me be with a man, but would have it be a couple so it was safer than some single guy. This time, he is looking and sending emails to couples but the profile only shows the pictures of the women and they are all hot blondes, skinnier than me etc which makes me feel unconmfortable. Now it seems the focus is on him getting to scan thru and pick hot girls he is attracted too and probably figures, "I get to f*** hot chicks and because it is the swing thing, my wife can't say I am cheating on her" I have a thing where I want to be a really good wife and make my husband feel he is really lucky etc. to have a cool easy going sexual wife. Our own sex life has got pretty boring and whenever we talk about doing this etc he seems really excited and more active so I hate to ruin it. There is a couple that responded and the wife is blond and skinny and they want to meet us tonight. They sent an email and I emailed back before he saw it telling them no. Please don't judge and try to look at this from an open view. You would be amazed at how many couple right in our own neighborhood do this type of thing, which I thought was so unique. I am just worried it is going to cause a disaster. Any ideas on how I can still make my husband excited and alive without resenting him too much? My fear is that he will want to do it anyways so why not let him instead of making him surpress his fantasy and some day cheat becausehe is so bored. I don't want to be one of those couples that is just numb and bored and finally fade away.

Robin
I hope I helped some! My best wishes to you!
~Heidi
you are saying. It sounds like you WANT to
want this but you don't really.
I can understand how you want to keep things
interesting but in my opinion there are other
ways to do that that don't involve other people.
But that's a decision YOU have to make. Don't make it
based on what anyone else wants or is comfortable with,
only YOUR feelings.
You shouldn't have to worry about him cheating
because you won't go along with this.
That would be HIS flaw, not yours. It's
a desparate reason to do something you're
not comfortable with (if you're not).
You've only been married two weeks and you're
already trying to talk yourself into swinging
and are predicting that he might cheat? Red flags everywhere!