I am being naive here?

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Registered: 03-13-2004
I am being naive here?
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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 11:58am
I have never had a girlfriend suggest strapping on a dildo and doing me, but I see talk of it quite often here and the fantasy seems to be quite popular (although I am beginning to beleive its usually guys who are posing a women in this instances). Could REAL women out there tell me if this is a fantasy of yours or not and why? Thanks.
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 5:09pm
It's not a fantasy of mine, but I don't believe it's that 'out there' or uncommon. I've heard it mentioned before and not just here on the board, but IRL. Not hard for me to believe at all. In fact, most men *and* women have mentioned at one time or another that they would love to feel what sex is like for the opposite sex.
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Registered: 09-25-2004
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 8:05pm

It's a fantasy of mine.

I don't want to emasculate my husband with this sort of submission from the normal male roles in sexual relations, but rather I want to switch roles with him. Its role reversal at its finest. For me, I want to do it because I want to be my husband for a night. I want him to know what its like to be in a submissive role. He likes when I give him the prostate massage and other things to his backside because it feels good, not because he has any tendencies. I love giving it to him because I know from experience that it feels good. The strap-on is equivalent to a penis, niet? Where does the power lie for a man? In his penis...Its what makes him a man and being a man gives him power, so to speak. By giving me a "penis" I then get to become him and he then gets to become me and submit to my will. I'm dominate anyway..He must lie down for me and let me take over. There's nothing sexier to me than a man willing to do this. I love my DH and find him incredibly attractive and sexy. I love experimenting with him. I love that we make boundaries only to break them..Gimme a cop suit to go with the strap-on and we've got a fantasy come true.

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Registered: 02-25-2005
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 5:05pm
I myself, have never really thought about it, until I read this post, and I have to say that the thought of it is quite appealing. When I read jenniekg's post, I totally agreed with what she said on why she enjoys it. I like the idea of being able to become my BF and that I would be the one in complete control, that he would be submissive to me. I know that my BF would never agree to this in a million years, but it has now become one of my many fanatasies. So to answer your question, yes REAL women do think of this.
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Registered: 09-20-2004
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 12:09pm

Being completely dominated by my wife is my number-one fantasy. She's used a vibrator on me at times, but she's never gone as far as I've desired. I did buy her a cop outfit a few months ago, though, along with thigh-high leather boots, and that was pretty awesome.

The biggest reason this fantasy has gone unfulfilled is because I'm afraid to tell her the full extent of it. Someday I'll work up the courage.

Does your husband know you desire to use a strap-on on him?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 12:15pm
Don't be afraid to let your wife in on your fantasy.

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 5:51pm
Oh, yeah. I mentioned it while having sex with him once. He thought the idea appealing as I have used my vibrator on him. We're shopping for a strap-on now.
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Registered: 10-05-2003
Sun, 02-27-2005 - 11:41am

This is a fantasy of mine.

I mentioned this to my DH for the first time the other night and to my surprise he was all for it. Can't wait for it to happen. It seems it has been a fantasy of his for a long time but he was afraid to bring it up for fear that I would think he was "strange".

So, now we are waiting for a night when the kids go to Grandma's for the night and it will be time to play.

Why does this appeal to me? I love seeing my DH enjoying something without the responsablity of pleasing me. In this case, it will be all about his pleasure for a change.

The reason it appeals to him is the taboo aspect as well as being submissive. In a world where he feels responsible for so many things, this is something that is taken out of his hands.

And by the way, my pregnant belly definetly defines me as a woman.

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 5:14pm

I like you..

My DH was all for it as well when I told him. I explained why and that I want him to feel what I feel when he's in control.

My pregnant belly defines me as a woman too!! 4 months pregnant and going tomorrow to find out if I won the bet or DH did..I can't wait to spend that $50 on a strap-on..hehe

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Registered: 09-24-2004
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 6:23pm

Ok I HAVE to jump in on this one......lol.

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Thu, 03-03-2005 - 3:36pm
Do the two words "exit only" mean anything to you........hahahahahahahaha